down and out - stop complaining

bleh blah bleh

sick as a dog, my job sucks. job hunting sucks. and i feel like nothing is going right.... again. do not attempt to lift my spirits by saying it will get better because you know? it does get better, for a week or two, then right back to this feeling of utmost digust for everything. i may need a lesson or two on appreciating the things right in front of me. which i'm good at, it's just that i can't get that feeling to last long. i am open to suggestions on how to do that.

for me, it seems like life is full of darkness and i spend most of my time scratching at the pockets of light. i thought life was supposed to be peachy and only the bad things stick out in our memories? why is it that i am so used to the bad things but the happy times stick out?

get me out of here. i didn't sign up for this.

 

I hear you. Much of the time seems life life just sucks, for me I have to allow myself to enjoy a good day or moment for the time it is there and is happening in the here and the now or moment, while I end up getting so down on the feeling it is only temporary that I lose the moment of what could have been a good time if I would just stop thinking of it not staying round very long.

I try to start by thanking god or higher power for small things like the toaster or toilet paper and keep saying thanks for small and the more I say thanks for the small stuff then I end up realizing I dont have a lot, only I do have some things rather how they are. I am trying myself not to worry so much about stuff out of my hands. Good Luck and Peace. RxHEAD

 

I dont know man, everyone decides for themselves on how they perceive everything. Its your decision if you want to think this sux and that sux. I can understand though that there are alot of things from your environment that weigh heavy on your mind and spirit. But for me, I just go with the flow man. I take it all in me and I enjoy life as it is, I confront my problems and try to solve them in the best manner possible. If I hate my job, I try not to pay attention to it and I just focus on my work, try and get the job done. If you try and do your best in whatever, then I think that will change alot.
Things are easy for me to say maybe, I dont know, we all have our problems, some more difficult than the other. But what I learned is dont attach yourself to something man just: be able to let go and go with the flow, the bad things aswell as the good things.

 

Its all about perspective. Any situation can be both good and bad depending how you view it. Choosing to only feel the negative only compounds the situation. Your alive and there is always some one else that it is worse off than you.

 

I'm truly sorry that you're feeling so down and out happyhippyflower. I think the above posters had some pretty good thoughts about perspective. It's hard to remain positive in trying times, when you think to yourself "is this as good as it gets?" but remind yourself that you have the power to change things. You hold the key in your hand to unlock other doors, doors which can lead you to a more peaceful and content existance.

Life is what you make of it. Many times, even the darkest days can bring forth light if you look at it from a different angle.

{{{Hugs}}}

 

why is it fine if you feel super happy.. but not okay to feel sad and all fucked up inside?


if you feel shitty.. feel shitty.. but if it doesn't stop.. then you have something to worry about.

i go back and forth.. someday i feel freaking fantastic!! and other.. i just wanna pull the covers over my head and make it all go away..

lemme know if ya want me to hold your hand or bring ya some soup

 

you're probably going to get mad at what Im about to say but meh, so be it...
How about not sitting around feeling sorry for yourself, ya know what I mean... Sure if you sit and sulk about how shitty everything is, then yeah, everything will continue to be shitty..Anyone who sits and dwells on the bad things all the time, it will only lead to misery and self-loathing...
I use to sit and constantly feel sorry for myself all the freaking time..and then realized i was the reason why i feel down all the time, why i get upset and the stupidest and smallest things, it was me I was the reason..
I dont know whats going on in your life so this is hard for me to say cause I dont know exactly your situation, this is just as I precieve it by your post, ya know...
I respect you and i hope you dont take this the wrong way or anything...
Its like if you sit in a dark room listening to the cure 24/7 and think of sad things, of course you will be down...of course you will dwell more and more about the bad things..thats a given... so therefore live your days as they come and dont take everything that comes your way as bad, take it for what it is..everyone has shit, push through it and move on... The reason you are use to the bad things is because you let yourself get use to it...
Hell, everytime I turn around something shitty happens, but i deal with it and move on..i dont sit and constantly dwell on it or think about it or collect in my brain..i deal and then move..
I do hope things get better for you and i hope you dont take my post in a bad way or anything at all.. I am just stating what i think from your posts..again i dont know your entire situation, i dont know anything only what you post...
good luck..

 

i hear ya shroomy. no offense taken. i took that same approach to myself when i first wrote it. but no one around me is able to help so that is part of the reason i brought this crap here. i most definitely appreciate your approach.

but the meat of what you said was "get over it". i'm feeling better today i guess.


cooloner, good question. i like it.