I just know...

My boyfriend has kids with another woman. They broke up 2 years ago. He had to go to her house and watch the kids while she's at her night job.

She got off work at 6:30am...it is now 8am. I just know that this cannot be a good thing.

Sorry about the lack of a story. I'm kinda freakin over here.

 

9:40am....it just gets worse

I have no idea how I'm gonna react when he gets here....I may be cool and then again I may freak and accuse him of still lovin her

damn emotional rollercoaster

 

yep , if its the x hes a visitin ....its either fightin or fucking thats a hapining

 

He just called to say that he's on his way home. I didn't say anything


I just don't wanna know....

*makes mental note to bring it up in our next fight*

 

Been there, MissF...is this the first time for this? Or no? Ugh.

 

Maybe she didn't come home after work like she was supposed to and he just had to stay with the kids? Try not to think the worst. But if I were you, I'd definitely ask him about it if it's bothering you. Otherwise, you'll stew on it and get more and more angry, and when the topic does eventually come up at a later time, you'll be raging, and it can escalate into even more of a problem.

 

Soooooo, what happened? IS he home now? Did you ask him what he was doing?
We need more details now!

 

Yes ...the first time I've ever been worried about him cheatin or wanting to cheat

 

Well?

 

He came home at 10:40

I igged him and then got dressed up to run a simple errand, stayed gone for 4 hours when I should've been gone for a half hour

We're cool

 

igged?

 

ignored

 

How stupid of me to choose a guy that actually shares the responsibility of his children. I'd much rather be with a guy who turns his back on his kids as soon as he gets a new girlfriend.


And since I can tell you are rather thick by your post....the above paragraph was something called sarcasm

 

Let me see. He's late and you are frantic with worry that he's cheating with his ex. Well, he comes home so you ignore him and stay away longer than needed, in order to punish him. (Did he notice that he was being punished?)

How do you conclude "We're cool", or didn't you tell us everything?

 

Ya, how does ignoring him solve the fact of you thinking that he is cheeting? Did you ask him anything about it? Cause if you didn't he probably thinks "ya, I am off the hook, she doesn't even know what I did!". Think about it...........

 

me thinking that he was cheating is a trust issue. either I believe him or I don't. he wasn't at a strip club, I didn't find any numbers in his pocket or anything. he was being a father , watching his children while their mother was at work.

Point being, the suspicion (sp) came from me and my insecurities, not from anything he did. It means that only I can fix it. Trust...if he gave me a reason, or better yet, any type of evidence that he has cheated, I'll put his ass under the spotlight with the quickness

I just happen to know that in this particular situation, I was being emotional. And me being scared of her because she has his kids is not enuff to accuse him of being a liar...not in my book anyway. I wouldn't want him to do that to me

My first post was about my fear. I was scared and I went "worse case scenario" also known as my panic button...I push it often. Now I'm watching out, don't get me wrong, I don't ignore my feelings. if he is doing stuff he isn't supposed to, he'll fuck up, make a mistake, and I'll handle that shit accordingly.

So for now...we're cool

 

The idea was that I was mad when I didn't really have a reason to be so...I just wanted him to wonder what I was doing for a little while. See how he handled it. People that cheat usually overreact when their partners do simple things. So I did a simple thing to not only show him how it feels but to see if he was going to blow it out of proportion. His reaction didn't raise any eyebrows. The thing was that I have this guy friend. He knows he is my friend and usually doesn't have a problem with it. I was going to his house (he knew that and why)...I just made myself a little pretty, more than I usally do when running to a friend's house and stayed gone longer than I had to (I ran other errands) I wanted to see if he would freak. Guilt, I looking for the actions of a guilty man. He didn't freak tho. He raised an eyebrow...but no accusations. So I figure....we're cool

 

Pfft, responsibility. If he was responsible he wouldn't have gotten someong praygnent in the first place.

 

Sounds like a loser to me!!!!

Oh ya, and is there a reason he can't watch the kids at his OWN house? Sounds like a lame excuse to go fuck!!!!!!

 

cause he lives with me , ass

and SHE doesn't want them here with me