Mm.. has this happened to a lot of guys? Girls? Has this happened to you? Just not sure what to think of it. It was the first time we got together... It wasn't really a planned night. He got hard, it was so intense and passionate.. But.. as soon as he went inside me.. kablamo.. soft penis. Happened twice... We didn't talk about it though. He didn't say anything and I had no idea what to say. We just kept kissing and cuddling. He didn't seem nervous.. he seemed to be reallllly enjoying himself...
i was going to say that not getting it up is an anxiety/performance sort of problem. but that's weird that he gets it up and then it shrinks once the fun starts. i'd still say anxiety of some sort?
i always wear condoms, but i hate them!!!! they make me numb in my dick, after only 10 minutes....and i get so pissed off, because at that point i'm just working out...i have to have the thinest kind and that really doesn't help....it sucks...
happens a lot with anxiety...you may not be able to tell and don't presume you can, doesnt matter how into you he is...sometimes it just doenst work. hell my first couple of times i couldnt keep it up either, its hot eing with the person but as soon as i thought about the fact that i'd need to keep it up in order to perform it'd go away..its a lot of stress...with girls you can add lube...theres no firmness in a bottle for guys, so take it easy on him and give it a while for him to get used to being naked and hard around you.
Does he do any sort of drugs? My ex was a speed addict and it really affected our sex life. He'd get it up, but it would go soft at the drop of a pin. My current boyfriend did speed one time while we've been together and he was really into the mood and everything, but he couldn't get it up. So, that could be a factor. I don't know, there are a lot of things it could be.
