Reaching orgasm during sex..

I haven't been able to reach orgasm, or come close to reaching orgasm during intercorse with my boyfriend.. We've tried a couple different positions, but nothing. I know many woman cant find their G-spot ever, I really dont wanna end up like those "many woman"...Soo...
Whats the best position for hitting the female G-spot?

 

Doggy.

 

Is he real ugly or something, cuz you shouldn't have any problem having an orgasm. You shouldn't need a psysical stimulation, just try thinking harder. Did you wank like 10 minuites before you fucked? Even then I would orgasm quick enough if I had sex with, say the person who posted before me.

 

You have to completely clear your mind. if you have anything on you head like your grocery list or what you have to do after sex, because it might make it harder to acually pay attention to the sex. I know that was my problem but i heard that the girl on top is the best position.

 

Umm.... You DO need physical stimulation, Beyond.

What I would suggest for a starter, shadowd, is to stimulate your clit during the intercource. You can do that yourself, or your boyfriend may be inclined to do that as well. Doggy position, as tool has mentioned, would be a good position especially for this, considering your hand, or your partner's, won't be trapped in between the two of you.

As for your G-spot, be patient, and take all the time you need to find yours. Masturbation can be used to research your own body, so to speak. It's all about enjoying the sensations. If you're frustrated all the time, it defeats the whole purpose of pleasuring yourself sexually.

Sorry I can't really be much of help, but just wanted to butt in here.....

 

If you're going for Gspot, doggy's usually teh best though girl on top can be really good too. For clitoral stimulation during intercourse, girl on top is the easiest - your guy will have his hands free to stimulate your clit, breasts and any other erotic spots.

the gspot, well, it's elusive. I haven't really gone on a big hunt for mine because I'm really enjoying the non-penetration masturbation I'm using these days. But, I've read a bunch on it for when I do want to find it... approx two inches in. If you crook your fingers in a come-hither sort of motion (one or two fingers works best) with your fingers pressing towards your tummy, it should feel a bit rougher than the rest of your vagina (when you're stimulated that is)



and beyond... I'm just going to ask you to shush since you don't seem to understand how a lot of chicks orgasm, that only about a third of women can orgasm from intercourse alone... it's not something everyone can do so don't make such silly comments mmk?

 

Hmm well, I might be one of those many women, cause Ive never reach orgasm fully during sex, the closest I came once to it was him goin from behid, and another when I was laying off the side of the bed and he was standing up.

 

Alot of women cant orgasm from intercourse alone. Read up on it.

 

I've tried doggie acouple different ways, (bending over somthing *like the bed*, leaning against the wall, face and arms down/butt fully airborn*Don't like the amount of air that gets pushed up my coochie when I do that*, Back slightly arched* feels alright, but not good enough to actually cum*, back straight even...

As for me riding.. well I have a hard time getting a rythem going with my boyfriend.. I'm usually pretty good at riding, but It hasnt been that good with him.. Maybe I've lost my touch.. I usually cant feel much inless I lean WAYYY back while riding...I find I have a hard time moving my hips while in that position.

Oh I've read ALOT about the female and male G-spot...
I've explored with everything but an actual toy from the adult shop (no money for that kinda thing). He's explored trying to find it too.. He Actually spend 20 min fingering me in the exact spot its suppost to be.. Not saying it didnt feel good, But I didnt get close to climaxing.


Everytime I have sex I try to clear my mind, but it seems that I'm always worried that I wont get off.. I love sex, just being close during intercorse is fullfulling.. But He feels like he isn't enough to satisfy me.. And I'm not about to fake an orgasm...

I've tried stimulating my clit, but I can never feel it during intercorse.. its like my body just goes numb down there. He's also tried fiddling with my clit, and nothing.

 

Try a Trojan Vibrating Ring (it is available in the drugstore). It fits on the base of the penis and has a small vibrator that stimulates the clitoris. My wife came twice in 2 minutes the first time we used it.

 

we tried one of those things, what a waste of time and money! didnt do a damm thing, not even came close to touching me, so back to the drawing board

 

some vibrating cock rings can be really good, depends on teh couple involved and it's design though. Look into a few varieties... sorry to say I'm not too sure about getting a toy from a company that specializes in condoms, I'd peruse adameve.com or other sextoy stores before commiting to a vibrating cock ring

 

I have had a number of partners who never have orgasms during intercourse. However we have always been able to find a way for them to have as many as they wanted before we had intercourse. It is not clear to me from your posts if you are not having orgasms during intercourse or if you are not having them at all.

 

the things they think of!! that'll save some trouble reaching down there....wonder what can go wrong with it? ...

 

hehe, this makes not having an orgasm during sex seem like having a bad trip on a psychedelic drug
it's all about mood, mindset, and setting
haha
but hey, it works

 

No I haven't had an orgasm yet from 4-play or intercourse.

 

Eh. I can only get off during sex from one position, me on top. I'm practically an expert on riding and can give you lots of tips. You find it hard rocking in that position? I did too. I found because I had nothing to hold onto it made it very hard to find a rhythm and rock. I usually face a guy with my knees to the bed. I grab my ankles and push up with just my toes so that I can lean back a little and use that to give me the ability to rock. Another thing, you could try having sex in a kitchen chair (no armrests). Both sitting up makes it easy for you to move and for him to concentrate on your breasts and mouth (plus your clit tends to rub a lot in that position without having to try). You could also try reverse cowgirl (since you said that you only seem to feel anything when you lean way back in the girl on top position). Another thing is, maybe have him put a pillow under his ass so that it'll push his pelvis up a little.

I thought I was broken and couldn't have an orgasm. I found that since I thought I couldn't orgasm then I REALLY couldn't orgasm. Sort of like a mind block. Then one day it happened and I litterally cried I was so happy.

Have you ever had an orgasm or is it just with him that you can't orgasm? If it's just with him then it could be something wrong with your relationship (not saying it is) and that you are not letting yourself go with him for a reason. If you've never had an orgasm I suggest you masturbate because you know how things feel and there is less margin of error. Then if you reach orgasm you'll be able to help him help you orgasm better. Or try to save money for a sex toy that specializes in clit, vaginal and maybe even anal stimulation and have your bf use it on you while he (or you) plays with your nipples. Maybe you aren't getting enough stimulation.

 

Well said - solid advice and good questions - could not add a thing

 

well i really dont cum with him there, can on my own with a vib but thats it! not my fingers, so me rubbing myself while with him is out of the game, cant get anywhere near with the vib while hes trying to do his thing! ok, we could go and get another vib a bit smaller one maybe, but its just with him that i have the trouble, well not just him anyone else wouldnt manage it either (not that i have) i have tried willing myself and saying yes i can do this, but it kinda makes my mind concentrate to much instead of feeling what hes doing and enjoying it!

position doesnt amke any difference, situation the same, bedroom hotel, different room, in the car, the list could go on. always ends in the same thing, i still feel so frustrated after, that i just cant get inspired to try again. its just so disheartening when you feel broken.