I wish to let you all kno i have nothing against homosexuals. And i would like people to know that yes i would get the mick taken out of me by my friends they would accept my decision to be gay. Now knowing this i need some help. I have had feelings for girls all my life. I was in a 2 year relationship ending with the girl cheating on me. I also hit depression yet never went to the doctors about it, i find myself with a friend that i have known for 6 years, in relationship that i want to be in. After 2 months i had this amazing sex with her, she went to the bathroom and this really nasty feeling came in my stomach, ever since i have been questioning my sexuality. Bit weird yes, although i cant get it out of my head and its been about 3 weeks now. It's like in my head im telling myself im gay although im not, yet even if i think im bi i cant shake it. Its even started to make me question the love i share for my girlfriend although im sure i love her. She is the most amazing girl i have ever met. In this this is my last resort. I can live with being bisexual and not having a male partner. Although the word gay will not leave my head, i dont kno if i need some one to tell me its natural or to tell me all teens go thru it or blah blah (im 18 btw). or that im just over reacting.. I also heard that all ppl when in a serious relationship start questioning it due to the fact that they might spend the rest of their lifes together, plus im even discussing with her about having kids, that i truely believe i want with her. I say all this to myself and yet it still wont go away although writing this is allready making me feel stupid because yet again im saying.. I LOVE THE GIRL... > help!
Lol heres another thing the thought of touching another guy makes me feel sick. The Shit just doesnt add up. TBH if i am gay i think ill (Dont moan ppl) Deny it to myself or at least keep it to myself. My girl friend still turns me on so. Makes no difference.
That alone makes me pause. You are already making plans on what you will do when you find out something you actually do know about yourself. That is some deep denial, dude! I'm not sure what you're denying, my guess it that you have a serious sexual attraction for men. If so, that won't just go away, no matter how much pussy you lick. Don't laugh, but I was sick as a dog for three days after having sex with a girl for the first time. Sorry women, no insult intended. And I did love that girl very, very, very much. I tried. But my love for her, I now know, pales compared to the love I have had for certain men. No one can answer your questions, but you yourself, and the answers may not be swift, sure or or what you want to hear. ps. what is mick? .
another way of saying take the piss. Not deep denile and i have had sex before that didnt make me feel sick. I think i said that wrong. I cant be in denile if im unsure of anything. Its been 3 weeks. Only reason why i have started to come on forum is because its gettign me down. For one i think how can a guy that has loved women for 18 years suddenly be gay within 3 weeks. and 2 i unsure if all the crap in my head is linked with other stuff going on in my life. tbh i dont know what i was expecting from this forum. I think i just gotta wait and tell.
Hey man dont worry! just get on with your life and your relationship! you're probably too nervous bout the relationship and that's why ou start questioning everything beginning with your sexuality! It's pretty strange that you are not attracted to boys and yet you think you're gay! hmm...
. I cant be in denile if im unsure of anything. That's how denial appears from the inside looking out. how can a guy that has loved women for 18 years suddenly be gay within 3 weeks. Everyday there seems to be somebody who 'discovers' they're gay after being with a women for years. I haven't a clue how that happens. (I knew I was gay when I was 5, but gawd I put on a good act till I came out -almost believed it myself.) and 2 i unsure if all the crap in my head is linked with other stuff going on in my life. . . i dont know what i was expecting from this forum. Look for a mens group or walk-in counseling or something in your area. You sound distressed and confused. Actually talking directly to someone who has experience or is a therapist would help you clear up alot of your questions and confusion. .
if you love the girl and have an attraction to her, forget about it.. otherwise, pursue a relationship with a man.
It's psychologically proven that most men and women have some sort of same-sex urge or fantasy in their lives that they can't control. Your best bet is to embrace and confront it, not ignore it. If this kind of chaotic confusion persists after a while, it won't ever officially go away unless you experiment. Don't be hesitant, just find a way to do it. You may be lifting a huge burden off of your shoulders after you do it. There's no guarantee that you're gay just because you've been having these urges. Our bodies have an interesting and mysterious way of dealing with certain things sometimes. Explore!
18 is very young.Realize it takes time to figure things out in your head too.Try not to blame yourself for your feelings and try ,try not to rush into things.
