So when i started this job 5 months ago, i met this girl (A).....we instanty clicked, like ive never clicked with anyone before. There was an undeniable chemistry that i legitametely haven't had with anyone. However, i soon found out that she had just moved and broken up with her boyfriend of 3 years. So I ignored these feelings and we became such close friends. A little while after that, I met this girl (R), who i started dating and although i was head over heels for her, there was no denying something was missing. we wound up breaking up about 2 weeks ago. However, while I was dating R, A and I would hang out almost everyday...all the while I would tell R everything. I never kept anything from her....including a couple of times when A slept over for one reason or another. And i swear I never did anythihg inappropriate for my heart belonged to R. But there was no denying the chemistry that A and I had. Now, A went home to get the closure she needed with her ex. And I think i have now gotten the closure with R. I know the heeling process with be for a bit on both sides, but I really can't ignore my feelings for A anymore. We have already expressed to each other how we felt, and we both know the feelings are mutual, but we both knew the timing was off. Now that the timing may be right, i was just trying to gather some opinions on what I should do. I'm thinking I need to have a sit down and completely spill my heart. Is it worth trying? What do I say? What do I do? Any advice would be great, I knew i could turn to the fellow hipsters....thanx in advance!
My recommendation, considering it's mutual and neither of you are seeing anyone, is to go for it, like.. now. There's really no reason not to that I'm seeing.
I agree. I think "spilling your heart" might be a little bit much--you don't want to go over the top. But yes, you're already close, what I'd say is hang out, get lots of alone time, an environment where things could happen, and let them just play out. If you both know it's mutual, then it shouldn't have many risks, and you're also already close, so in the event (much that I doubt it'd happen) that it doesn't happen, you're probably close enough to keep up the awesome relationship you have as friends already.
i appreciate the responses thus far....see she doesnt know that i broke up with my ex yet, so i was gonna sit her down and tell her why i broke up with R and say how i cant ignore things anymore and although we both are gonna need time to get over things, we can get over things togteher.....something along the lines of...."i know it will take time, but i will wait for you, no matter how long it takes....i just know how right you are".....something like that....thanx again
