What's a normal sex drive for a teen girl?

FYI, when refering to "sex drive" in this thread, it is not the same as wanting to have sex... sex drive is the biological "need" to satisfy one's self sexually while "desire" is the biological "need" to satisfy one's sex drive by means of sexual intecourse.

Hey everybody. I'm just wondering what a normal sex drive and desire are for a teen girl (I'm 17.5 years old). I realize there is no such thing as "normal" when it comes to sex, but you know what I mean.... I don't really desire sex at all and my sex drive fluctuates with my menstural cycle. I have some sexual feelings around the time of my period, but I also have periods of total and complete lack of both sex drive and desire. Like, if my sexual desire matched my sex drive, I might want to have sex once a month. Maybe twice... maybe less than that. And when I feel my sex drive, it's kind of annoying....

No I am not on antidepressants and no I am not depressed, or on any other medications. It is not a medical issue, I am just wondering what other s think.

I have a boyfriend, but I never fantasize about him. I have fantisized before, but nothing too explicite except out of curiosity but probably nothing compared to other people. I love my boyfriend, but sex is out of the question. Even making out is something I have to be in the mood for before I even want to do it. When we do make out, I have somewhat sexual feelings, but they seem satisfied simply by pressing myself as close as possible to him.

I have blabbed on long enough, I hope this isn't too long for at least a few of you.

 

i would love to help you on your answer but im a male

 

I wish I could help you. I'm female but I have such a strong desire to have sex that I often find myself fantasizing when I really should be doing something else.

 

I dunno, mang. Sex is the main priority in my life.

Ahem.

 

some people just have a lower sex drive than others. A couple gals on here have husbands like that - maybe you need to try and find a mate who also has a low sex drive? In more extreme cases it can be called asexuality (little to no sex drive at all)

 

If you seen me then maby you'd have a better sex drive.

 

average drive is 3 . 4 miles

 

is the .5 in your age really all that important to the question?

 

6 days a week

 

lol, no, not really. Nomally I would just say 17, but come on, it was like 2 or 3 in the morning whe I made the post.... odd things ae bound to happen.

 

I know you are joking, but that's another thing; looks don't matter to me. I mean, I know they don't matter to a lot of people, but I don't seem to notice them as much as other people. Girls will talk about how hot someone is and I'll have to think about what that person looks like and then I'll agree that he's good looking, and of course it's all a matter of oppinion, so there are times where don't agree... The other day I was a bit surprized because I actually ran into about 2 or 3 guys that I noticed were attractive. It's just not something that's on my mind. My biggest crush ever was actually on a guy that was not all that good looking. I just really liked who he was and that's it!

 

Well, my boyfriend says that he is waiting until marriage, so I am safe in that regard and I do know about asexuality. As a matter of fact, I post quite frequently on the forums on the AVEN web site (Asexuality Visibility and Education Network). I don't know if I am completely asexual, but I am hyposexual at the very least.

 

Ok, thanks, that clears things up .

 

Well, "normal" is a relative thing. People vary significantly in what they want. However, 2 people with very different levels can have problems. Friction, and not the fun kind. When you are kissing, you are satisfied. However, do you get the impression that he is satisfied? Does he think that you're really worked up and are just waiting for marriage? He might be thinking that. What if you 2 get married, and he's looking for sex daily? This should be cleared up before making any step like that.

If you're both about the same level of interest, then great. No problems. But you should establish that at some point.

 

i guess sexual drive varies in every individual...sometimes i can be horny as hell and other times sex would be the last thing on my mind..i'm not longer a teen but i was pretty much the same when i was 17, 18.
besides, who's to say whats normal or not?

 

I'm glad I don't have this problem.

 

Or here's an idea: if you don't want to have sex then don't.

 

same here!

 

I know that normal is a relative thing, but it would be nice to know where I fall. Actually, when it comes to kissing, I am only somewhat satisfied, but I get the impression, that people tend to enjoy it more than I do, lol. I get the impression that he is satisfied when we are making out, but we don't do that often and I get the impression that he would like me to make out more often. What do you mean by "Does he think that you're really worked up"? He knows that I am waiting for marriage and that isn't a problem for him because he is doing the same, but I don't know what you mean by the "worked up" part. I don't even want to think about marriage until I am a bit older (at least a few years into my 20's), but how we each feel about sex would be something I would want smoothed out if we ever got to that point in our relationship.

 

Surprisingly, the average number of times married couples have sex seems to be around 2-3 times per week. It is likely that there will be times when one or the other in the relationship will not have an overwhelming drive to have sex each and every of those 2-3 times, but will have it anyway to make their partner happy.

For sure, some men have a lower drive, and some a higher. I'm a 3-4-5 times a week man myself. Anything less than three and I would have been well gone. My wife seems pretty much tuned to my frequency, she says she enjoys it around 3-4 times a week.

When you have actual sex, that the hormones associated with sex boost your desire. In other words, the more sex you have, the more sex you want.

Ultimately, if there is a severe mismatch in the sexual part of any relationship, it will be doomed to failure. But, until you get to the point of enjoying real and regular sex, it is impossible to know for certain how much you are going to desire sex.

And my conclusion to my posting. Waiting until marriage before sexual experimentation is as silly a thing as a person, or a couple, could possibly do. Beyond learning how much you are going to like and desire sex, good sex is a learned and practised art. Anyone can do have sex, but to do sex well, so well that you and your partner will be satisified for a lifetime together. That is an art.