Why would she say that about me? I DONT KNOW WHO SHE IS!!

Ok I went on manhaters.com a while back and rated my ex, who really was horrible to me, I broke up with him after 4 years, well I went back today to see if my fiancee was on there just for fun and looked up my ex. his new girlfriend posted a profile that was polar opposite of mine and had this to say:

"This guy is the best guy i could ask for some little girl put thing's on here that are so not not true and i know this to be a fact and i want it to be said he is the best boyfriend a girl can ask for.. She is just mad cause i got what she could have had.."

I dont even know this girl at all but she is insulting me like that! If he changed then good for her but I broke up with him! The nerve to say what I could have had? This guy shoved me around and spit in my face for 4 years but Im jealous of her for what she has with him?!?!?

It just makes me so so so angry! I mean I would NEVER EVER say that! If skyes ex said she didnt like him on there I would reply with my opinion but I wouldnt insult her!

Why do people do this? I dont understand why she would say this about me...

sorry I just had to vent, but I take stuff like this personally, it made me almost tear up...damn im such a big baby

 

It's just the internet...you should know people talk a lot of smack on here...

Don't take it personally.

 

I think it's kind of a defense mechanism.

This girl is blinded by him, because she may be infatuated, love him, whatever... either way, she feels the need to defend her "territory"

It's like a warning sign to you, I think, her saying "Back off", and I also think it's her way of attempting to make you jealous, like saying, "Yeah he treated you like shit, but he treats ME like a queen HAHA"

WHY?

Because that's how people are. It's natural, really... in the wild animals fight with another to get the "female" and in human reality, its quite opposite, it's the women going at each others' throats for the man.

I think that's what it is anyway.

I beg to differ with the above post. Although it may be true, even if you would see her in real life, I'm sure her reaction wouldn't be too far off from her post over the internet.

The best thing you can do, is just ignore it. If she knows it gets to you, well then she's "won". Be the bigger person, and just laugh about it, I say.

 

I know I should but it just really bugs me, I have never delt well with people saying things to me if I havent done anyhting to them (well duh, I guess thats human) I just hate that after dealing with him for so long, finally being done with him and she says im jealous.

I wont say anyhting back but I really wanted to have a little reassurance that I wasnt in the wrong for being a little bothered by it

although what you said makes sense, that she would want to defend him, I just hope she doesnt end up dealing with the same shit from him

 

No, you're not in the wrong, and I'm NOT just saying that for reassurance. You're not in the wrong by any means, all I'm saying is, don't make yourself out to look like a fool the way she did by getting too upset about it.

Anyway, yeah isn't that a bitch though... to have someone say something like that to you, but still worry about her own good?

I have that more than often with exes and current girlfriends. I fear for the girl, hoping she won't have to deal with the same shit I did with him, but yet, the same girl usually gives me shit, the same way this girl did to you.

It's all natural, everything about this situation, you and her...

But, in this situation I think it's best if you just not worry about it at all. It's okay to be upset about it, but as for worrying about HER own good... pfft. She will learn herself. If he treats her good, and continues to, well then great... but if he ends up treating her the same way he did to you, don't feel bad... she had to learn it on her own. Just like how you had to. You can't warn, or tell anyone to protect them from things like that... they will do what they will, and learn from it themselves.

I hope that helps a little

Take care

 

Try not to take it too heart, if the guy is still mean then I guess she will find out the hard way. I would probably feel a bit annoyed at that though aswell! Anyway try to forget about it because obviously you're not jealous becasue you look pretty happy with your boyfriend now!

 

OK, so just to clarify something here -- do you know she exists? Is this someone you've seen around but never talked to, or is this just an entity on the internet claiming to be his new gf?

Frankly, my first impression is that he posted it himself. Why would his current gf want to make him sound like more of a catch? Why would she look him up on there, only to defend him (if someone's looking up a current bf, isn't it to find out what to watch out for with him?)? "he is the best boyfriend a girl can ask for" sounds more like an advertisement of "hey ladies, come date me" than something anyone in her right mind would post on a site titled "manhaters" (then again, this is based on the prejudices of someone who has no interest in visiting that site).

Hell, even if this current gf exists, who's to say he didn't post it using her name?

 

yeah I thought about that later on, they live in KY, i live in NC so I have no clue if she exsists..you dont use any names except of they guy you rate so it could be anyone...and I wouldnt put it passed this guy to have a friend write it just in case a girl looked him up on there...im over it now but it was just so mean at first..lol..im thinking maybe i shouldnt have ever made one about him, i just had so much anger towards him at the time

 

i wouldn't use something like that manhaters.com anyway. seems a terrible invasion of privacy, libel, and well, high-schoolish. any host of other things that just kinda make my skin crawl. as for whether or not this girl exists, well, it IS possible. some people bring out the best in others, some bring out the worst. not everyone is supposed to be a couple. some people are meant to stay as far away from each other as possible. at any rate, if you insulted her man, whom she may love and who may be a completely different person with her, well, thems the breaks. it stands to reason she's going to be heavily defensive in protecting her love, wouldn't you?

 

oh boy...
Why did you feel the need to put your ex on manhaters.com... I mean, what was really the point of that.
And you said it yourself, if your bf now was on there and youd reply with your opinion without insulting, that I really find hard to believe..
You probably of shouldnt of put him on there to begin with, and yeah i think she has the right to say whatever she wants since you felt free to waste your time and write up a whole thing about your ex.. How would you feel if someone did that to you? I dont care what relationship you had with him, if you put up personal things about people on the net, then you get whatever comments people make...
Why would you tear up??? she is defending her bf you put on a website cause your relationship was bad..
You said you would never ever say that, but you wrote all bad stuff about your ex on a WEBSITE on the internet where millions of people can see it and acting like poor me why did this girl say mean things to me...which is sorta hypocritical.. if you cant take the heat then dont post stuff about someone cause your relationship wasnt good.. you move on, you dont go to a site and spill the beans and then expect nothing to be said to you...
get over it...

 

Cause she's a girl.

That's the thing with women, they'll get bent out of shape out of what they think you're saying about them.

You could be describing how he treated you.

She'll read "Heather is really stupid for being with this guy. I hate her. I'm jealous she has him and I don't any more. Stupid Heather."

Even though NONE of that was in the LOGICAL ENGLISH you wrote.

 

it isnt hypocritical, I know my ex, I have never met this girl. I would never isult someone I dont know...THATS what I meant

 

shes just jealous because you had him before her.

 

how about growing up and moving on with your life?

 

i am sorry but your ticker tape sig just kinda scares me. too much information!

 

did you ignore when I said this? seriously...i flat out said im over it now, and wish I hadnt made one..so why bother saying anything about it at all

its not like it matters what you think about my actions...i could care less but jesus did you not read what I said at all before commenting?

 

I think people who put anything up at a man hating or woman hating site has serious issues....
If it doesn't work out for you as a couple, so what? Move on. Nobody marries the first person they see after exiting the womb....

I bet your mom is proud of that ticker....way to go champ...

 

I did read what you said, seriously anyone who puts anything on manhaters needs to grow up and get a life...
But thanks for bolding it red for me and underlining it if you didnt do that i dont know what i would have done
I dont know why you feel the need to go all out when I just gave my opinion after all you posted this post on the net for all to apply...
Why bother? cause I can
Sorry if you didnt like my honest post but im not going to coddle you because you are immature to put something on manhaters (and please please dont sit here and get angry cause you think im stating this cause i failed to neglect your comment "did you not read what I wrote" cause I did and again sorry if you get pissy cause someone doesnt agree and stated you were immature..
if you dont like things said to you THEN DONT POST SHIT ON THE NET!!!
And also, why bother saying anything about what happened at all, about what this girl said about you, why bother saying anything about it all...maybe you should take your own advice..

 

Thank you! That ticker tape is for children who want to show off ridiculous things. Yours being one of the most bizarre. But, if you want everyone to know that you got laid a while back, congrats. The rest of us don't have to. We keep track because it's an everyday thing.

 

wy would you even bother with that? am I supposed to get my feelings hurt