Is very difficult for me. No matter how much I love the person after a few weeks the excitment wears off and I look else where as soon as who I am with messes up in even the slightest way. But see I don't end the relationship either if the person messes up to a point where I hsould, I put up with too much before I say good bye. Most who have a problem with monogamy do not have a problem breaking off a relationship. I have just been noticing how different I am from other women in this aspect, most women have an easy time with monogamy and it's the guys who's the cheater or serial dater.
Nah. You just need to find a relationship where you are allowed to be open together. There are plenty of couples that love each other that are swingers. If it's done in a responsible and adult way and had an open partner, it really lets you explore different types of ways to love with your partner.
that's a good idea but then I have problems with sex out of a serious relationship. Can you be like swingers where you just mess around with people a little bit heh
yes, you can. but the simplest answer to your problem is that even when in a serious relationship, you're not fully emotionally engaged. i would hazard a guess and say that you don't love the person you're with at all. you may have a degree of affection and mild attachment, the sort we develop with friendships. if you go looking for better and find it, then you're not with the person you're supposed to be with. full honesty is the best way to deal with your partners. don't cheat. let them know you're not committed to them.
ya know it's totoally not me it's them. men can be such self-sbsorbed jerks who only care about themselves and their day and their needs and oh nope not going to remember that you had a doctors appoitment today. im done done done done. thats all done
That sounds like how I used to be. I was totally dating the wrong types of guys. For me, I got all the guys that wanted the sexual and domestic end but didn't want to be tied to one person. I stopped dating guys who had a wondering eye (unless we are out chick hunting together ). You just need to get away from guys with the qualities that you know you can't stand. Find out if it's going to be an issue before you get involved.
yeah, i know. but the truth is only painful if you're sentimentally attached toyour own illusions. just let it go. this doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes you one who's not in love. hell, it's not like you're 90 and have never been in love. you're young. you have every right to play the field. settling just gets you buried in bullshit.
ABSOLUTELY. i don't know why so many people think sex and love have to be irreversably connected. all that happens is that you convince yourself you're in love so that you can get laid. that's bullshit.
ya know I think I just need to learn how to let shit go. no one's pefect, I'm certainly not. As long as the person is good to me I just need take a load off...if I was a guy I would need to bust a wad hah!!
What malady? There's nothing wrong with being polyamorous, no matter what the church, the state or society have told you to the contrary. I should know. I've been polyamorous for my entire adult life, and I'm not the least bit ashamed of it. I've mentioned it before elsewhere in Hipforums that monogamy sucks. It places unrealistic expectations on the partners in any relationship. It also breeds jealousy and possessiveness, which often has tragic consequences for all involved. Monogamy is especially unhealthy -- in the long run -- for bisexuals. If you're bi (as I am), being in a strictly monogamous relationship is totally incompatible with being bi, as far as I'm concerned. You're feeding one side of your sexuality while starving the other side. It is imperative to your own peace of mind and your long-term mental health to be completely honest with yourself and with others about your feelings with regard to both your sexual AND emotional orientation. -- Skeeter
