I don't think any man has ever made me orgasm...i've come damn close, but never really get there...I can make myself come like a freight train when i go solo, but with any parter, and i've had very good partners...i just can't fully orgasm...is it like a mental block? how would i go about getting rid of that? even with my boyfriend that i love, i can't let myself come. like, i'm a little shy/embarrassed of some parts of my body, but who isnt? is that the problem?
Just let yourself go! I used to be pretty self concious and shy when it came to sex before I met my last boyfriend. I would pretty much just lie there and take it, , since I didn't know what to do and no one ever took the time to teach me. But he really helped me open up. Being comfortable with the person is very important. Have you tried manual stimulation during sex? It is very rare that I come without some clit action. Foreplay is good.... don't be afraid to use a toy or two. Are you getting enough lubrication? Try using a sugar free flavored lube. It will be fun and different, plus it helps you out. If you're in a monogamous relationship, try getting on some form of birth control so you can ditch the condom. There are very few things more beautiful than exuberant impassioned condomless love makin'. Good luck!
I've never fully orgasmed with my boyfriend either. Although that might change when he finally pulls through on his promise of great oral sex.
YOU NEED TO COME ON DOWN HERE FOR A WEEKEND either an ephifany will occure or ill kill myself ....yea id stake my life on it ! then ya kin take all that newfound orgasmability back to home box office in balmor
There's the problem... you have to learn to get go... be kinky. Tell him where to slide his cock, what angle, what feels the best, work with him and soon enough you'll cum.
i've had enough experience with enough partners to know what i like. i do tell them what i like and i do take control and do what i want. i'm not really shy in bed. i don't know what's wrong with me.
You are holding yourself back without realising it. You need to let go and not give a damn about how you look, what you sound like or what your partner thinks about you. When a woman lets herself go, men get really turned on in any case. You are only 18. I was with an 18 year old late last year and she had her first orgasm with me. The confidence and experience of an older lover probably made the difference. I hope that she has had many more since then.
NONE of my partners have made me cum. At least not during sex and only one during oral. When we use toys i get off but i have to have some clit action. Sex is always good but i cant quite get to that point either. Maybe we have the same problem...some ppl have told me that it has a lot to do with hormones and age. My dr. told me it was very likely for me not to get off by jus sex until i am 25 or 30. I am very open with my body so i doubt that is your problem considerin it doesnt change mine...lol..I wish you luck with it...
Megan Most women don't orgasm during intercourse most of the time, so I always use oral and fingers on a woman's clit to help her come before intercourse. That is normal and almost all couples have sex that way. At least you have orgasmed during oral and that is a good start! There are some positions that give you access to the clit during intercourse. I know a couple and my wife does orgasm a second time during intercourse if I rub her clit at the same time. One good position for that is a 'scissors', where you lie on your back, your partner lies on his left side to your right, slipping his right leg under your right leg and over your left leg. Your partner has his hips under your right leg. Interesting sensations, your partner can last a long time, and he has good access to your clit. Doggy style and the spoons position enable him to hit your g-spot, which may also get you there if he can last long enough.
Thelittleone & Megan, I am 26...and the first time I was ever able to orgasm with a man was with my husband. I've had several partners before him, and he was the only one that could do it. Usually clit-stimulation does the trick. You're young, you have your whole lives to figure it out!!
