Hi y'all, I hope this doesn't bore everyone, I guess I just need to hear some advice. Anything is appreciated! I dated one of my best friends about two months ago, and we were together for only about a month, and he broke up with me (which was fine). But then he just stopped calling me. I miss him in my life, and not even in a romantic way. I've tried and tried, but I can't get over him. I really miss him and just having him there to talk to. So that's my predicament. If anyone has or is in a similar situation or even if not, I could suuuuuuuuure use some advice! Thanks so much, Kaydee
i think it's one of two possibilities: he either is just being a jerk and ignoring you, OR he just needs a little distance before he can be good friends again. about 5 years ago, me and a really close friend of mine had some interesting feelings for each other, and one day while we were just hanging out and getting high at my house, he started to rub my shoulders, then he leaned on my shoulder and told me my hair smelled good, then we made out on my couch for about an hour. after that happened, things got really weird, and he stopped calling me, and he didn't return my phone calls. we were young then, and instead of being an adult and telling me he wanted some distance to just think things over, i heard it through a mutual friend that he wanted a break of sorts...so your friend might not want to never talk to you again, he just might want a break. i would try to write him a letter or something, just to say that you really want to know what's going on, and that you want to be friends if he still wants to. after that, there's not much you can really do but wait and see what happens. if he doesn't want to be your friend again, then you'll just have to move on from it. in life, people part ways constantly, but you can always hold their memories dear in your heart, and they will always be with you in a small way. either way, getting some kind of closure will be key in your healing. you may never "get over" a person who care so deeply about, but you CAN move on and learn to live without that person directly in your life.
I was in the same situation about 12 years ago with my best friend. Things didn't work out between us and we stopped talking. The only difference is that I was the one that stopped calling and answering the phone. It took me about 6 months to get over the fact that we didn't work out together, even though I'm the one that broke it off. We did some " things" together and I just couldn't look at him or talk to him without thinking about what a big mistake it was. Now, 12 years later we're still best friends. Maybe he just needs a little time to think things through. Either that or he's being a jerk. How long did you know him before you dated? My advice would be to just give him some time ( without calling) and see if he misses you as much as you miss him. I'm sorry that you're going through this, I know it must be hard.
