Why is it that all those people say its best to marry your best friend but usually in my case anyways the girl rarley wants anything romantically to do w/ her "best friend"? And the guy that she persuses or lusts over is never really a good friend at all. i dunno just confuses me i guess it means something to be considered a girls best friend but at the same time its a little degrating. oh well its not easy being green. peace n love folks!
personally.. i'd love to marry my best male friend. he'd know everything about me and would understand me. my exhusband, i now feel, wasn't even my friend. just .. i don't know. some guy that was supposed to help me out in this world and didn't. maybe thats why now i'd like to, if i ever get married again, marry someone i could also call my best friend:& .. maybe i'm just cheesy that way
Your not cheesy at all. personally i feel thats the only reason were here(earth) to meet that person that you feel most connected to, to know that your not alone even when you are by yourself if that makes any sense to you?
i never really feel "alone" .. like i've said before.. i feel i'm only half. i might know my other half.. hopefully after this summer i will know for sure
you just have to wait and let things play out, man... a best friend is a best friend, someone who you can talk to... I had the same issue with my best friend, and you have to just not worry about it... if your worrying about her lusting or loving you, don't, its unecessary stress and wasting your energy... put that energy into being the best person you can be for yourself, and when your totally good with yourself when the right girl (her or not)does come around everything will fall into place... things will play out as they should, just let her do her thing and she will figure things out, or maybe not, but emotionally you have to be ready for either. Another thing, dont have expectations for outcomes or try to predict the future.. this is the essence of unhappiness, in other words : BE HERE NOW.... i just got done my first semester of college in VT , and i live in DE, talk about a mind trip, man... so worried about everything, but in the end i realized that you have to live for yourself and let these other things come by themselves... i dont know if this would help you or not, but there is a book called The Handbook to Higher Consciousness... it really helped me see where happiness is found and identify the universal reasons for unhappiness in our western society... another good one is 'Be Here Now' by Dr. Richard Alpert... both can be life changing if taken to heart.... anyway, good luck with your situation and remember that if something/someone comes into your life and makes it much more happy, then it is probrably temporary.. but if you have the joy of living for yourself you will always be happy and when you find a girl that matches up, everything will fall in to place... sorry for going off, just trying to help...peace man- Chris
You can have more then one best friend. I'd like to think that you could have best friends that are platonic and best friends that you are romantic with. It's all a matter of figuring out what's best for the type of connection you have with that person. I would love to find a guy that could be my best friend and my lover in one. I might have met that person but I also don't know yet. Only time will tell.
Well, I married my best friend. We started off as friends, and ended up falling in love with one another, getting married, and having three beautiful children.
It's a pretty big stereotype -- the guy who's in love with his female best friend. But it's so true so often. It wasn't util after my best friend was in rehab for two straight years that I found out from other friends how he felt....He and I are no longer very close, those years in rehab and separation destroyed much of the closeness, plus he lives halfway across the country now.
slighty dazed you are so right man i mean i love being her best friend dont get me wrong its just sorta empty ya know. i havent pressured her at all and i expect anything its just that i would love to see something more come out of this. oh and that book be here now is excelent its like the bible but on acid.
oh and its not like she's never said anything to make me wonder like one night we were talking about kids and how to be a happy family and i say (trying not to imply anything) do you think our kids will be friends she paused and said they'll be brothers. now what the hell does that mean, i dont want to sound bitter but she confuses me so much
i have that feeling too...that wierd emptyness, like something should be there... and the 'love' notes to me in college all the time are a tease... and we have moments all the time where we should just say fuck it and go for it...we decided that since this is such an unsure time for everyone (college) that we keeps things just friends even though we like eachother alot, the words were "youre my bestfriend, i want to know you for the rest of my life, lets not mess it up with something stupid now"... which i can understand, though it is all of just being scared... in the mean time im finding out alot about life and me.. and i definently dont need a relationship fogging that path.. how long have you known her? ive known Anna since 9th grade and its been wonderful... definently would like to be with someone whos been through all te crazy times with me, ya know? I think im transferring to uvm in the fall, so excited though i will miss the view at Johnson State (the most beautiful place in Vermont, i might add), there are alot of good people there, whether they have money or not...personally, i dont...but maybe there will be a new light in my life, maybe not, but why think about it now, be HERE now.... peace man- Chris
ive known Jayde ever since the tenth grade and we instantly bonded it was like meeting my other half.were both 20 know and im just now starting school in a few days, and i know ill meet other girls but i dont know if ill have the same connection.
Yes I have had romantic feeling for female friends of mine, and when I told them. Well that was the end of our close friendship. Now I don't even think of my female friends in that light! Made it a lot easier!
