Sex Shame

Do any of u guys feel ashamed in any way when u have sex? i mean because of fatness or only regular shyness?
I wonder

 

I have never felt ashamed of sex for that reason. I am overweight and I'm shy, I have felt very self concious or like the guy wouldn't want to have sex with me because of my looks, but I've never felt ashamed. The only time I felt ashamed of sex was when I had sex with my (ex)bf knowing I wasn't in love with him and he was in love with me.

 

yup... lately i've put on a lot of weight and i'll admit there have been times i haven't wanted to do anything because i'm afraid the minute all my clothes are off the guys gonna go "eww nevermind." or evern worse, think i'm gross but feel bad and so do stuff with me anyway outta pitty. i guess thats what the light switch is for.

 

I used to insist on wearing a t-shirt during sex.. I still do this from time to time if it's the first time I have sex with someone in the woman on top position.

 

I feel fat before sex when we're getting naked.

Then I figure, "hell with it".

 

I was pretty much convnced I'd die a virgin. but when the chance came, no pun intended, i wasn't self concious.

i knew he was into me, he had initiated all of it and i felt fine. remember that everyone has hang ups about their body and you can't let that stop you from experiencing life.

 

well the reason why is started this thread is because i usually feel ashamed of myself because im too, overweight and well shy by nature (just like weeble).
I've had 6 sexual partners in my life, all of them have been my bf's and to tell u the truth i was never confortable with them at the moment of having sex, except for my current boyfriend.
He always finds ways of making me feel ok with myself at the moment we're having sex. I even stopped asking for him to turn off the lights! that's an amazing step for me, believe me.. but well even tho ive make some progress on this i still feel shy when we're taking a shower together or when he asks me to go on top. :S

 

How much do you way? I'll decide ifin' you's fat, sinse you prolly ain't.

 

oh, my dear friend believe me... i am fat. and this is not the usual girl talk "Im soooo fat" when she's thin.. no way.
Look.. im very tall i must say and maybe if i tell u how much i weight u will fall off ur chair! people say that being tall saved my ass... i currently weight 220lbs!
hmmm I'll post a pic of myself here so u can see......

 

here's the picture i said i was gonna post.

I dont look as fat as i am in that pic but that's just a start. I dont have any other body-pictures cause i dont like those to be taken.

 

Hun. I currently weigh 210 (height is 5'6).. granted a lot of that is my chest and I got a lot of muscle. I used to weigh 232 back in August. Trust me when I say that a lot of that weight is in your head. You see yourself as heavier then you are. Yes, you are one of the bigger girls but I wouldn't call you "fat" or "obese" you're more like "overly chubby"... which is halfway in between just chubby and fat.. It took me a lot to see myself the way that others see me and I hated myself and was self concious... I have the attention of a guy that showers me with compliments. He's seen me fully naked and still wants me like no guy ever has. He likes my love handles, belly roll, stretch marks and all. He doesn't care. He tells me how beautiful I am.

Lately I've been telling myself in my head "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and it's been working a lot. Even if some guys think I'm fat, obviously they all don't. I have a friend that has been working with me on this. He says that I have an amazing personality and I'm a beautiful girl.. I just have a really shitty attitude towards myself and that it holds me back from being an "otherwise beautiful girl with a lot of sex appeal."

Just don't care what everyone else thinks.. I think women should flaunt what they have if they are trying to get a guys attention.... even if they are 300 pounds.

 

Okay, you're all fat. Hey, at least I'm honest.

 

You should really learn something from the following quote:

"If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all."

Don't spread negativity... karma has a way of coming around to bite you in the ass one day. It's actually scientific law... if you expell negative energy, you're only going to get negative energy to fill that space.

 

Hey, I said I would have an opinion before.

 

thanks a lot weeble.. you have a great point with everything u said. very wise and true. i'll practice that on myself also. thnx

 

I just want to point out that actual weight is only a small indicator of fat.. Muscle weighs a lot more then fat and I'm a perfect example of that. My mom weighs 10 pounds more then me and probably looks about 50 pounds heavier... You are built a lot like me actually.. seems like most of your weight is in your ass, belly and a bit in your arms.. with me it's my belly, chest and my arms that are my problem areas..

 

If she enjoying it im not ashamed a bit. and she sais im hot, i don believe her but its nice of her to lie.

 

I sometimes feel a bit shameful of my body due to all that fat I have. Not really because of the fat itself but because of all the stretch marks that go with it. They look so ugly and they make me self-conscious. But he doesn't seem to think much of them (or if he does he stay quiet about it) so I suppose they aren't that bad.

And Nolan, I don't see why your girlfriend would lie to you like that.

 

I think everybody has stretch marks but some ppl have them covered better or something cuz i have them all over my upper legs and ass i dont like them on myself but i dont see them as much of a problem in other ppl (ftb) Donald(Freind of cris and mine) says he likes stretch marks cuz they feel like pussy? lol i told him he should fuck his arm where he has them, fun times