its it always going to be true love when the person you were with for 4 yrs of your life doesnt wana be with you anymore, do you think we can be together someday again? sometimes i just feel it ya know, that things will be ok. we will remain friends, always, but who knows what goin to happen down the road could be bad or good, we love eachother always, and we can do it all over again, if its meant to be.i know that hes mad and says we'll never get back together, but it takes time to heal, we both need to grow up and change for the better, but its so hard for me right now its only been a couple weeks, i just cant seem to let him go or stop calling him, which is makin it worse, hes stronger than me i give in too easily, but i need him in my life, hes my true love i wana marry him some day, we used to talk about it all the time, he even cried over me because he realized how much he loves me, and the last time he cried was at this grandfather funeral 5 yrs ago, u can just throw all that love away right? just time needed to have to space, we were with eachother every single day, which isnt healthy, for 4 yrs. i need to give him his space now.. please someone comfort me i need some advise, i cant lose him even as a friend, hes mt best friend. i love him please help!
I cant move on right now.. i might be able to keep myself busy and not think about him, but i wont move on, i need him in my life, and i think that things will be ok sooner or later, i just know him so well, we know eachother so well, and things are meant to be...
It's so hard to accept that people change and so do you, things continue evolving and changing and sometimes it means that we have to let go of some things. I know you have lots of questions in your head right now, but let me tell you that you'll get answers in due time. it might not be today or next week, but you'll eventually understand so much more. we need space to grow, to see things around us...sometimes we grow apart for that very same reason. though what you are feeling now might be hurting you loads, it will help you see that in life you have to learn to love your individuality first and then be able to love someone else. the fact that you won't be in a relationship with your boyfiend anymore doesnt mean that you cant be friends. it's pretty painful in the short term, but maybe who knows you feel like getting back together in the future. It seems you just need space to experience life. I think it's for the best.
You need to take things one day at a time. I know it's much easier said than done, and I know your heart is breaking right now, and the pain you feel probably makes it hard to even breathe. But if it's really meant to be, things have a way of working out for the best. He's angry. Respect his need for space, or else you may anger him even more. He needs time to cool off, to think. In a fit of anger, he may say things that he doesn't really mean, as you may yourself. You need to let things calm down, as hard as it may be. If you keep after him like you are, it may complicate things moreso, putting further strain on a possible future you may have with him. Hang in there...if it's meant to be, it will happen. {{{Hugs}}}
hippychickmommy, you couldn't have said it better. And regarding true love - I believe there is no such thing. And if anyone says otherwise, they're selling something.
thank you for your advise, greatly appreciated. ill try to hang in there for everyone, as long as ill be ok, i know him, and eventually he'll come around, i need to give him time to MISS me all over again...until then ill ALWAYS be there, but im going to take care of me now, and i want him to do the same..
i'm going through a very similar situation right now. in fact, i think the only major difference is that you were with yours for 4 yrs, i only had mine for 10 months. i am 17 yrs old and he was my first love. the whole time we were together we never had sex, which to me is a huge implication of love, considering the fact that he was willing to wait until i was ready. everyday we were together was perfect. i loved him with everything i had. i made certain sacrifices for him, and he did the same for me. we were everything to each other. we started dating in march. well on christmas he freaked out and told me he wanted to take a break. i was very calm and relaxed. i figured he was feeling smothered lately, and he was thinking about getting married, so i knew it was normal. a week later he decided he wanted to stay together. everything was still great. but january 2, he told me that he felt that there was something wrong with the relationship and he didn't want to try to fix it. at first, i didn't take it hard at all. i figured maybe he was just going through a difficult time that he didn't want to share with me. the next two days i cried alot, bc i felt like i had lost him. he said he would keep in touch. when he didn't call for the the next two days. i tried calling him for a while. then i decided, he just needs space. he'll come around. a week later i heard from him. he was happy to talk to me, and he still calls often. but its so strange. he's such a different person now. it's like the boyfriend i knew died. so be warned, he may begin talking to you about 'other girls' and orgies. it hurts me to hear him talk to me about these things, but i'm happy to be a person he can confide in. he says he's still considers me close, its just now he feels like he can breathe comfortably. being in a relationship controlled him, whereas i did not. there were things he felt limited to, things he wanted to experience before making a serious committment. now things are so jumbled, i don't know what's going to happen. but i have faith in his decisions, and i have faith that he wont be the only 'best thing' in my life. i thought this experience might help you, comfort you knowing that you're not the only one who has experienced this. i felt better when i talked to people who had also been through this. good luck and have faith.
