my husband, depression, suicide........any advice...

i have always been there for my hubby, he has been sick most of his life. since 15 he has had bleeding ulcers, bulemia, stomach pain, vomiting etc.... they have done test after test and medicated him with anti-depressants, antacids etc... nothing has worked. lately he has been really really sick, throwin up blood, pain so bad he doesnt want to stand up, telling me he wants to die, at first i thought he wa just "talking" as usual, he has spoke of suicide before but nothing like this. last night i walked into the living room around 4am to find him laying on the floor asleep with a big knife in his hads......... i took it and hid it and made him come to bed. when he woke up he asked how he got into the bed and then he asked where i had put his knife, there were no drugs and no alcohol around. i don't plan on telling him where the knife is. i know if he really wants to he can find it but i don't have any money for a doctor or psyc........... does anyone know of anything i can do............ does the health department have a free mental clinic????????
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I'm sure you can find some kind of free program or someone who will help you out.... usually anything government run will have some kind of assitance. I'm really sorry to hear that. Just keep an eye on him. I look around for something to help.

 

i don't think i am going to be able to sleep. usually i sleep on my own side of the bed cuz i can't sleep with someone all in my space...... but after i made him get in bed i ket my arm around him to make sure he didnt go anywhere... and he kept asking "why are you being nice to me now" and making noise just to keep me awake, then if i tryed to talk to him he wold be like "just go to sleep"... I think he was so weirded out he doesnt even remember how strange he wqas last night.......
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Ummm.... does this help??

http://www.suicide-helplines.org/usa/northcarolina.htm

 

thanks i am gonna try to get him to talk to someone on his own and if this continues i am gonna go to someone myslef........ i don't think i have ener been this worried about him before
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Even if you don't use those people, I'm sure they know other people who know what they're doing and can help. I'm sad for you. I want everything to be happy.

 

i am gonna call and see if they know of any free clinics............
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***hugs***

 

thanks....................... i wish he wold wake up, he has been in bed all morning, he didnt even try to go to work today

 

Do you think it would help him to get out of the house, like take a little drive or something? Or would it be better to lock him in a closet? Sometimes a little fresh air can help. Well, it's not really that fresh anymore... but who doesn't love breathing in some good ol toxins and emissions?

 

Just take him to the closest hospital. Don't worry about the money. They are, by law, obligated to admit him if he is suicidal. Even if you have to call 911, they will definitely take care of it. As far as him getting angry when you do take him, he'll get over it. Either drive him yourself, or if he's not willing, call 911. It is not a safe situation. He definitely needs help. If you want to talk, please feel free to email me... drseussplayland@aol.com

Take Care Sweetie...

 

Funky,
What the above poster said is right, take him to the hospital if you have to. Whatever you do, take him seriously when he threatens or talks about suicide, because it isn't a joke, and many people don't take it seriously, but they end up regretting it later. Almost everyone who actually goes through with killing himself tells someone about it or talks about it first. It is a cry for help, in the only way that they know how.

The state should have free programs, mine does.

 

i know he isnt kidding, i just wanted to find a clinic, the hosbital wont admit him unless he actually inflicts injury on himself................. he didnt cut, i just found him with the knife.

thanks for all of your help, i am going to call around and find someone to help us today..

 

If those muddafuckin assholes had saved that 125 billion US dollars they spent on killing 13.000 Iraqi civillians as well as their 5000 sons&daughters who try to earn their college money and spent it on FREE GOV. MEDICAL services,just like germany,finland,turkey,greece,sweden,italy and other "less profit driven" social states, another man could have been healed.

 

so true maes.............. seems if your not wll to do with money around here the government isnt interested in your problems..........

hubby seems to be doing better today, he is playing guitar a little and eating more....

i will keep you guys updated on the progress......

thanks again

 

Funky,
you both have to take it one day at a time. Good to hear he is doing better, but you should still seek help. big hugs to you both!

 

I'm glad to hear that he's getting better too. Sing along with him when he plays the guitar.

 

i am teaching myself some songs while he is at work so when he gets home i can bust out his guitar and be like "LOOK WHAT I DID TODAY!" i am sure watching me suck at guitar will cheer him up!!
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Funky, I am so sorry you two are going through so much. What Tristan said was true, a hospital has to take someone who is "a danger to themselves or others." They do NOT have to have hurt themselves, talking about it is ENOUGH. The next time this happens call 911, by law, if he is talking suicide they have to take him on a minimum 48 hour Observation. DON'T take no for an answer, When you call say, "My husband is going to kill himself. please send an ambulance." They cannot refuse. No hosital would, as if he did commit suicide, they would be at HUGE lawsuit risk from you and his family. If they refuse, threaten to call the police. They cops WILL take him to the hospital.

I had to do this for a family member once. The person did not want to go, but as he threatened, they took him for Observation. They HAVE TO.

I hope the two of you can get some help.

 

God, I am so sorry to hear about this. It scares me just reading it, and makes me so sad that he's feeling that kind of pain. But you seem like a really awesome wife and friend to your husband, and he's so lucky to have someone like you there to watch out for him and to love him. Just be there for him, listen to him, and hold him. Take his threats seriously. I'm so sorry about your problem. Good luck, sweetie.