Do any of you get criticized because your not racing your child like every other baby in America. I hear it from everyone Co sleeping!?... You don't want a crib!!?. No store bought baby wipes? Cloth diapers? No jar baby food?. No johnson and johnson? I think most of those things are unnecessary and very bad for the environment has anyone driven by a big trash mount lately?.. diapers have a lot to do with that. it's not going anywhere it's just going to keep staking up there. Am going to use them while am out and stuff but at home cloth diapers will work just fine for me. Sorry I just need to vent everyone's driving me nuts with this. Thanks for listening
I still get it. My sone is 2 3/4 and everone makes these mewling sounds... Still breastfeeding? Homeschool? But then underneath there is this undercurrent of wonder. Wow, he's potty trained already? His vocabulary is huge! He is so active! What a social kid! So ultimately I must be doing something right. Don't worry about what they think and say, follow your heart it knows the way. H
Well my babies are 10 & nearly 6 years old and I still get this too! Someone said "only in Minnesota will people cross a busy street to tell you that you're raising your children wrong." I agree with them. I've gotten pretty mouthy back & have a "list" of comebacks, depending on the comment & the tone in which it was delivered. You COSLEEP?!? Yes, and so does 3/4 of the world! You're STILL breastfeeding??? Absolutely. You're STILL nosey??? You use cloth diapers??? You mean you wrap your babies butt in plastic??? It all depends on how I'm asked. If someone is curious, I always answer politely. But I am so tired of being yelled at for my parenting choices. love, mom
(((hugs))) I was critisized for awhile, but I made it VERY clear that they way I raise my child is simply not up for discusion. I have a friend who got sick of her FIL bitching about things. She put together literature she found on the internet of the benifits of breastfeeding, extending breastfeeding, co-sleeping, no spankin etc... and put it all together in a three ring binder and had it handy for when someone questioned her. Her FIL now advocates attachment parenting
I dont see why anyone has the right to critisize anybody else on the way they bring their children up. There is no wrong or wright way. Co-sleeping is great if thats what works best for your family. Putting your child into a crib with a bedtime routine is also grreat if that what works for you family. As long as the children are happy, healthy, loved and cared for then who's business is it to say whats correct and what isnt?
I know Osseo! I'm in Arden Hills... right "next door" to New Brighton & Mounds View; we're less than 20 minutes apart! love, mom
I know how you feel. My mom is constantly trying to force disposable diapers down my throat when we're at her house. Thankfully, my family's been very supportive of the breastfeeding, but I have a feeling the weird looks are going to start soon (my son just turned one) with the extended family. My son is the only cloth diapered babe in the whole family, and the only one who didn't have half his penis hacked off. I own the only sling, and I have the only babe who uses a potty, sleeps with mom and dad more often than not, and knows sign language. The thing I get the most grief about is the food I give him. He gets nothing but healthy foods, like fruits, veggies, and whole grains. My extended family fed him so much at Thanksgiving he got a tummyache (he's a BIG eater - if it's there, he'll eat it, even if he's full, and especially if it's something new), and at Christmas, they kept telling me to give him pumpin pie ("But your dad got strawberry jam the day he came home from the hospital and he's fine!"). I always wonder why people are so shocked at how friendly, happy, and outgoing Taylor is, not a bit of stranger-fear. That's what AP does! That's what happens to kids when you feed them on demand, respond to their cries, feed them right, and interact with them regularly. Sorry, I'm off my soapbox now.
I never understood parents who believed that there was one right way to raise children. All children are different and should be treated as such.
Exactly You can't honestly say using a certain method will ensure a positive/negative outcome in every case. My parents raised my brother and I in pretty much the same fashion and we have grown to be completely diffrent. Some things thry did were sort of AP (cloth diapers for me, sling for my brother, BF for us both etc), others not. It took a lot to forgive them for the things they did which I wouldn't do myself. Still it had to be done, for my own sanity really. Parents do the best job they know how to do. So people should respect the parenting styles of others, unless the child is in actual danger from it. Know that there will be some conflicts in the future, but am bracing myself for that. Prefer to consider the common ground and pick battles wisely though.
wow. i do all that shit and no one has yet dared to criticize me for it. i even breast feed in public without smothering my child in a blanket. i go barefoot much of the time, too. not yet ONCE has anyone said a thing to me. i must be terrifying.
Very well said, Gixer. There isn't a right or wrong way, just do what feels natural to you and works vice versa too. I stopped breastfeeding at 1 year and got crap from some friends that thought it should be longer! Now, i'm getting it because he is not potty trained, but I don't see the point in forcing him if he's not ready. No one should judge a mother, we all do the best that we can.
Yea, you're a sick pedophile, all of you. You should be ashamed. And you let the kid sleep with you? That's just wrong. Me and Ommadawn should go boog you all in the face.
i'm getting ready for the criticism... yesterday i told my mom i want to co-sleep and she told me not to do it, that i will regret it, that it will affect the privacy between me and my husband, and said just remember that i told you so... after that i decided not to share anything else with her... then she said, you're not going to move out of this apartment???!!! you don't want to have it in a hospital???!!! it upset me a bit because she was the one person i thought would understand. guess not. if that came from my mom i don't even want to think of what other people (such as my mother in law) will think of the way i bring up my baby. i get enough crap for being vegan already... i know this is going to stir up a lot of problems... but i don't care... i know we will be more than happy
well, it does change EVERYTHING. but that's kinda the point. it's a worthwhile sacrifice. your children end up feeling so safe, secure and loved.
