i'm 17 and a virgin

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by iscreamchocolate, Jul 18, 2004.

  1. iscreamchocolate

    iscreamchocolate Senior Member

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    ok is this weird that I'm 17 and still a virgin??? Just wondering because practicly all my friends have had sex so I was just wondering... i want to wait and have it with someone I like a lot!! I mean I'm not just going to have sex with ALL my boyfriends in the future or just anybody.. I dunno... I was just wondering if it's strange...
     
  2. nitemarehippygirl

    nitemarehippygirl Senior Member

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    i'm 20 and a virgin. i know plenty of older virgins as well. don't ever consider it to be weird. you hear it all the time, but truly, don't do anything until you're ready, and you genuinely want it. that's what i think.

    i've had many "close calls", if you will, and in looking back, i thank the frickin heavens i didn't go further with those guys. hahahaha....
    don't worry about your friends having more experience than you. in a few years, they'll have those bits of regret about it and you won't. :)
    take it easy,
    ~
     
  3. fitzy21

    fitzy21 Worst RT Mod EVAH!!!!

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    i'm 19 and one. doesn't really bother me that much. i don't think its wierd either. i've could have "lost" it with a few people, but i really didn't feel comfortable with those people. but whatever, its all cool.
     
  4. Pablo

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    Dont worry, no one elses standards aply to you, wait untill your with someone you feel completly good and natural having sex with. I was 19. and 17 definetly is not too old to be a virgin. Even if your 25 and havent met anyone you love, its better to be a 25 year old virgin, than to have had sex with someone you didnt feel right about.
     
  5. FreakyJoeMan

    FreakyJoeMan 100% Batshit Insane

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    I'm sixteen, an I'm a virgen! WAAAAAA!
     
  6. Seven

    Seven Member

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    No absolutely not wierd. It's very normal to want it to be special, and actually admirable. Virginity shouldn't be thought of as something you need to "lose" (like get rid of), rather something you want to give. To give it should be very special and right and no one can say nor predict exactly when that feeling of right comes along. Peeps who just feel the need to "get it over with" are usually those whose first time is a less than ideal experience. And you don't want that. It will feel right when it's right and you will know. You will want the other to have it. Wait for that feeling. ~7 (p.s. half your friends saying they have probably haven't.)
     
  7. pasimachus

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    Yes, some of your friends are probably lying. Guys are supposed to lose it earlier than girls, and I was a virgin until I was 21. It sounds like a cliche, but it's not your friends that matter but you. If it's right for you, that's all that matters.
     
  8. opticalpromise

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    hey i dont think its a big deal,, my girlfriend was a virgin up until she was 21 about a year ago after we'd been going out.. note i said was.. heheh... :)
     
  9. HappyHaHaGirl

    HappyHaHaGirl *HipForums Princess*

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    Being a virgin is awesome! I'm jealous... you're more in control than I was... I got manipulated the first time by someone who didn't care about me, which led to me thinking that it wasn't as special and important as everyone made it out to be, so I let myself get hurt over and over again for a long time.... my last boyfriend really made me look at it differently, like something you do with someone you really care about.... but it turned out that he was just like all the rest.... he was just an English major and he always knew what to say.


    Don't trust anyone but yourself with your vagina! You don't have to wait until you're married if you don't want to, but I strongly suggest waiting until you've found someone you won't look back on in ten years and puke....
     
  10. peacefuljeffrey

    peacefuljeffrey Senior Member

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    You 17-year-old and 20-year-old virgins make me laugh.

    But not because you're virgins.

    Because you're asking other people about what's right for you!

    Of course it's alright for you to be a virgin -- at 17, 20, 25, whatever it takes before you feel comfortable having sex. I have such a huge amount of respect for you for waiting, for your resolve to save sex for someone you really like a lot, who's important to you and worth sharing that with. Wait as long as you like, dear one.

    Blue skies,
    -Jeffrey
     
  11. Seven

    Seven Member

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    Boy if that isn't a way to put it... I don't know what is. *lol* Sounds like advice from someone who knows. ~7
     
  12. ZePpeLinA

    ZePpeLinA Jump around!

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    I dont think you're too old to be one. I dont think it matters at all. You should wait till you feel right and ready about it and not force yourself to do something you're probably not comfortable with. I bet most of your friends who claim they're not virgins anymore will regret stuff they done later when they're older, i know i do.
    Deep down i wish I waited. I was only 13...too young.
     
  13. Dizzy Man

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    How can you think it's unusual to be a virgin at 17?

    In my country (the UK), the average age we lose our virginity is 17, and we have sex a lot younger than most countries. There are some countries where it's against the law to have sex under 18, and some where you can't have it until you're 21.

    If you don't want to have sex then don't have sex. There's no right or wrong age, it's all down to what you want. When you're 18 you can vote, it doesn't mean you should rush out and start voting when you're 19. You need to be mature enough and educated enough to know what you're voting for. Sex principle with sex.

    If anything, it's better to wait until you're older because you will be a lot more responsible and a lot better at dealing with it and handling the relationship.

    I was 23 when I first has sex and looking back I think that was probably a good age to start. I'm glad I had the chance to try it back then, yet I was old enough to be responsible about it.

    The most important thing to remember is to use a condom unless you've spent years together and you're planning on marrying the guy and having his babies.
     
  14. Fractual_

    Fractual_ cosmos factory

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    i lost my virginity at 13, or 14, i don't remember,lol...
     
  15. Lilyrayne

    Lilyrayne Chrisppie

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    I was a virgin until I got married at 19. :) It's not weird at all. I find it weird that sex is so casual with people anymore these days... that there's not many older virgins anymore.
     
  16. seamonster66

    seamonster66 discount dracula

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    On the contrary Bree, from what I have heard it was mandatory to have sex on the first date during the 70's. If anything, it seems the average age is going up.


    I was 17....would have done it sooner if i could of :)
     
  17. Mushroom Master

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    Im 16 and im a VIRGIN. hmmmmmmmmmmm i like it:p
     
  18. Pablo

    Pablo Member

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    one upside of waiting untill your with someone you know and trust and plan to be with a long time, if you know their safe and get on the pill, then your first time and all to follow for that matter can be without a condom.
     
  19. Vida

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    Hi.

    I am 21 and I lost my virginity this year.

    It was nice because I married, and I didn´t wake up alone , at least.

    Don´t face virginity as the biggest problem of the world.

    Relax. WE have our right moment, it´s cliche but it´s true.

    You will lose your virginity when you feel the right moment.

    And it was painful to me, bodies are different. Just relax, don´t get paranoid just because you´re virgin.

    And the right moment will come and you must lose it with someone special, then your pain will not be so big.

    Hugs
     
  20. DazedDreamer

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    im actually jealous of you! make sure you wait, it really sucks when you know you did it with the wrong person! i lost my virginity at 14!!! and i regret it still!!!:&
     

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