i'm 17 and a virgin

How about you come sit next to me and we can discuss this problem of yours in private?

 

I know heaps of people whoa re still virgins at 20!
3 of my close friends are virgins, and i'm serious when i say, they aren't ugly, or wierd or anything, they're hot! hahaha but they're either shy, or just havtn relaly gone out with anyone they like yet
so yeahhhh

dont worry, most guys like chicks to be virgins anyway, and imagine how good it will be when u eventually do

better than regretting it i think

Love Amanda

 

I'm 18 and a virgin. And I don't expect that to change while I am 18. Probably not while I'm 19 either. This is not by choice though, I'm just socially retarded and afraid of speaking to girls (and I attent a school full of wigger assholes, and I have been branded a loser or "fag"). And so a virgin (and single) I remain.

 

Yeah its cool that you've made it this far. So many girls start so young, like 13 and 14 and I guess thats OK but it can be disasterous ie: pregnancy, AIDS,ect...

Good job! hang in there and don't sweat it

 

UR virginity is sacred... be careful with it, b/c if u loose it theres no going looking for it, its just gone! And the thing is many don't know how sacred it is until after they've lost it, so trust everyone here whos telling to be careful. I lost mine to my BF recently and it was beautiful b/c we trusted, respected and loved each other and still do!
...I know 10 yrs. later I won't puke when I think of my 1st time. I will be forever greatful it was Sagie (my currrent bf) that I lost it to. I WISH EVERYONE THE SAME BEAUTIFUL EXPERIANCE THAT I'VE HAD AND CURRENTLY AM HAVING !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Instead of asking if it is weird and strange if you are a virgin at 17, you should be patting yourself on the back, because you are waiting for someone you care for, and not just giving it up to some guy that crawls out of the woodwork.

I know how it feels having friends that aren’t virgins. I myself am a virgin, too, and I am 18 going to be 19 in a few months. Talk to some of your friends…ask them about their first times. I know that I have and I would say more than half of my friends regret it. You’re not missing out on much.

When the time comes, it is going to come, and you’ll know when it’s right. So, until then, don’t worry about being a virgin, just live life and be yourself, the rest will fall into place.

 

ohh good god, you are young!! dont worry about it, I think its sexier if someone actually waits to have sex. Ive been trying to go after this girl I know who is almost 22 now, and shes a virgin..... its not like she is really repulsive or anything, she has a list of over a hundred guys she kissed.

 

It's not weird at all. Take your time. Wait for someone you trust and like. You'll probably regret it if you lose your virginity to just anyone.
love, metro

 

'Course you're not weird man I lost mine with another guy at 12, now that's weird :& It's only sensible to wait 'till you're ready and you really want to have sex.

You know what? I havn't had sex properly with any girls yet, but it doesn't bother me 'cause I'm engaged to the most brilliant and amazing girl in the world, and she makes me happy whether we shag or not!

And hey dude, at the end of the day, it's only sex!

 

lol, Don't even worry about it. I lost mine when i was 13 and now i kinda feel like a freakin' slut. If you wait until your ready with a guy your really ready to be with, you'll feel much better about it. Not only that, but trust me, I have a keen understanding of the male psyche and he'll fell like he's Columbus, charting unexplored territory. Wait unitil the moment seems right.

 

Your NOT weird just because your 17 and a virgin.

Some people in this thread seem to think that it's a great thing that your a virgin and very young people commenting on how people are having more and more casual sex nowadays. This is nothing but a media driven myth. The fact is, that people are waiting longer and longer to have sex and are more uncomfortable with it then they've ever been/ They've also done studies showing that people were having more sex in the 1950s then nowadays and teenage pregnancy is down about 40% since the 1950s. Also, getting pregnant when your 17 isn't the worst thing in the world(and that's what condom is for). It's acutally normal biologically. Society is so judgemental! I personally would not want to be a father at 17. I'm 21 and still don't want to be a father!, but it's a PERSONAL decision. That's why I always make sure the girl is on the pill or I'm using a condom. No mistakes so far...knock on wood! Stds and pregnancy are a very remote possibility if your careful. Your probably 50 thousand times more likely to die in a car accident than get an std when using a condom. There about 99.9% effective against stds. When they don't work, generally it's because the person is lying about using one in the study of using it incorrectly. Stds is not the reason people say not to have casual sex. They said the same thing about casual sex in the 50s when there wasn't any aids/hiv. It's a morality issue. Look at the catholic church telling people condoms don't work....atrocious. The enitire aid epidemic probably could have been stopped in education was put into place RIGHT AWAY rather than ignoring it the 80s as a "homo's disease so cares".

The reality is that whether your a virgin or not is entirely up to you. There is no right or wrong... it comes down to whatever makes you happy!

I have to disagree with the notion of "saving yourself" posted by some members. This is nothing but a repression of female sexuality. It's seeing women as something that can be "had" with no thoughts to your own sexual pleasure(one member wrote that guys like virgins better). Why should someone be ashamed just because they enjoy having sex with many partners? Why, in popular culture, when a women sleeps around is a slut, yet a man does it and he's cool?

Well, anyway asking if your wierd is a silly question and you were perfectly aware what the answer would be: NO.
As I said, whatever makes you happy. One thing I will say is that it's probably not a good idea to be not be sexually active or active because of what society thinks. I personally think that the earlier I could lose my virginity after age 15 and start enjoying nature's natural high-sex, the better. As far as I'm concernced sex is great way to express your love to someone.

But, the fact is make your decision on WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY!!!, not what people will think of you.

"How about you come sit next to me and we can discuss this problem of yours in private?" LoL! Count me in on that one too!

 

I am 18 and still a virgin as well. Heck, I haven't even had a gf before! But that is because I'm waiting for someone who I truly care about. All of my friends lost their virginity in one-night-stands, and trust me, while they may think its cool now, in ten years they'll look back on it with disgust. I think that sex is something to be treasured and experienced with someone who you truly love. In my opinion, it would just make sex a whole lot better anyway! But sex is basically the greatest expression of love for someone, so shouldn't it be with a person that you love, and who loves you back? I'm off to college soon, and I know for a fact that I'm not going to look around for sex all day, I'll be waiting for love to find me, and then, what happens happens! I seriously commend you on being a virgin, BUT, at the same time, I also agree with what viperman just said. It is YOUR decision, not one others should make for you. It is your body, and you should choose how to use it as you please. I've just expressed my own opinion. Oh, and coming from a guy, it IS true that we like virgins more! I know I would MUCH rather have a gf who is a virgin! Just my two cents.

 

Didn't have time to read the other replies...
I think that you're very normal. I felt the same way and didn't have sex until I was twenty. I had met my girlfriend and realising that I really loved her (still do ) I descided that I would like to have sex with her. I feel that it was a good choice. Just take your time and make sure that you're really comfortable with the one you're together with, and be sure that you're not getting pressured into doing it if you're not ready.
I really love the sex that my girlfriend and I have, and I owe a part of that to the fact that I waited untill I was ready.

 

I lost my virginity less than a month after I turned 16, and it meant nothing to me. Don't feel like, because you're a certain age, you have to start having sex. Especially just because all your friends are doing it. I know it's cliche, but dont fall in to the whole pressure trap. I don't wish I would've waited, but I wish it was with someone I actually liked. Make sure you actually like the person, and you're not just doing them just because they're there. But then again, I'm sure as hell am not one to preach.

 

my 17 year old friends are virgins... maybe you're in an odd crowd.... dont worry about it though...

 

thanks sooo much for your guys's answers they mean a lot to me!! and I mean a lot!