Has anyone ever treated you like this?

Ok so I noticed a friend of mine was online and so I decided to IM him. I've been thinking about making some positive changes in my life for a while and I'm excited about the prospect of being a happier, more energetic, healthier me. So I started to tell him about how I want to lose about 20 lbs by eating better and doing some gentle exercize and how I want to start meditating and taking yoga. And he basically said that it sounded like I am being superficial and like I'm in a cult. All I said is that I'm excited about starting some new and I think healthier habits. He even accused me of being anorexic or bulemic... it pissed me off to no end.. all I said is I want to be healthier....jeez...

Tracy

 

Tell him he's being a idiot.


He should be happy for your attempt at healthier living.


And good luck!

 

Thats stupid, your friend should be encouraging your descion to lead a healthier life. He's probably jealous that your more proactive then he is. Glad you made the descion, good luck.

 

i guess you overwelmed him with your enthousiasm about the future you and i'm sure he didn't mean to sound like an idiot.

I have been ridiculed by friends when i quit smoking and started with body-shaping exercises to keep my weight under control....the harder they laugh the more determined i get to reach my goals.

 

friends like that arent friends dude....i had a very similar experience with a close friend who a few weeks ago i decided to completely break away from...

 

maybe he is unhappy with his life right now...and got frustrated hearing about your excitement. He shouldn't have acted that way but asking him why he said what he said might help.

 

yes, i am always treated like this. I can't stand it! Whenever i want to try something new, health wise, everyone jumps down my throat. YOU DONT NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT! YOURE SO SKINNY! Its not about losing weight....okay it is a little....but its just about eating more healthy. Somehow eating steak 3 times a week doesn't sound like it's doing my arteries a favour. Perhaps our friends are jealous because we're showing enthusiasm about something they don't have the willpower to go through with.

 

^^^^^ agree agree agree!

What I've found in my experience is that this kind of behavior does seem to come from jealousy. And in my case it's usually from friends who've been wanting to lose weight and get healthy for years, but never were able to because in all their attempts they just lacked the willpower to see it through. Some people lack the motivation to even try. Some people are ok with it and will back you up and encourage you regardless....but some have trouble, even if they don't consciously realize it, with their friends or other loved ones managing to change their lives for the better without them (so to speak). Y'know...it's related to that "misery loves company" thing. Don't worry about what he said. He may not even realize quite what he said.

And good luck with getting yourself all fit and healthy Don't let the naysayers bring you down .

 

it maybe that he dosent like change. my cousins husband was the same. she's not fat but she is neither thin & she's always been alittle concious of her weight. then she decided to go on a 'diet' (not so much of a diet, just more exercise & healthier eating programme). the weight started to drop off & she had more energy to do other things. her whole personality changed, it probably changed for the better but to her husband it was "change" & she had changed. maybe you friend is scared of loosing the friend he has. sit down with him, tell him that your not going on a diet, you just want to live a healthier life.