Friends With Benefits

I am currently in a relationship called "Friends with Benefits" has anyone else had one of these? This will be my first, we agreed that it was just sex! There were to be no strings, no feelings, no love! Well after are third time together, she informed me that she had a crush on me when I was dating her sister. she was a Senior in High School at the time. Now she is 30 and I am almost 40! Am I right in this or am I wrong, because she is happy, and I treat her right.

I am concerned she may have feelings for me still yet, and I don't want to hurt her! So tell me what you think?

 

I played tghat tricck beefore annd the problemm becomes tghat even though you're not dating, you form an intimmate relationship. Just so long as people know exacctly what it is, and inn their heads keep it straight.

 

seems pretty hard to separate emotions from sex. i hope you're both robots.

 

I wouldn't be able to do it and I've never met a guy who could do it either. I'm not a sex no strings attached kinda girl and I don't like to surround myself with men who abide bty that philosophy. Friends don't fuck friends!!!!

 

ack..


personally.. i can't do it.. tried it and it only left me depressed and used feeling

i want it all.. and the sex is just better, in my opinion, if you really know that person

 

Wow looks like the consensus is FTF is not a good way to get laid.

 

Yea I have, and they can be alot of fun as long as both parties understand the rules.

 

The second you think she might have feelings for you is the second you should stop slipping her the sausage.


If it were me, though, knowing she was starting to fall for me would make me want to bang her better than she's ever been banged before. Cause there ain't nothing like kicking a broad when she's down.

 

Well we never were friends, until recently, I just knew her by way of her sister. Yes, she was alone and I was alone, not seeing anyone. What it boils down to is, both of us had an itch that needed to be scratched! Where I live there are not that many people to date, I am a transplant from Texas. Most of the people are related to each other around here, so they have to drive at least 30 miles to find a date! The rest are married, or already dating!

I haven't seen this gal in 8 years, and we got to emailing each other! Thank you for all your input, this is new to me, and I don't want to hurt her!
Thank you Nimue, you give me hope this will work! I told her she should tell me if she starts dating or sees a guy, just let me know because she should be happy. So just tell me and I will step aside and attend the wedding!

 

Good luck with that man. Never ends good.

 

Yep, just make sure that you both understand there are no feeling involved at all!!!!

 

That is what we agreed on but surely the crush died after 10 years?

 

Crushes don't die, they wait.

 

Feelings involved is fine, just not certain feelings. If you see this going down a path your not willing to go, then step aside & let the other person get on with their life.

 

Well I told her anytime she met someone else, that we would stop. She and I agree that anytime, either of us can stop, and move on!

 

amen to that

 

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i can do it if its only a like one every month or two, otherwise it just dosnt feel right

 

Well I'm not sure how this will work but I am going for it, won't be the first time I have been burned!

 

Well...I'm 19, so I don't really know that my experience with a friends with benefits thing really counts, but I know in both of the "relationships" I had labelled as that, I got really hurt because I truly had feelings for both guys. The first one was when I was 15 and it was with an 18 year old I had a huge crush on. Our little fling was an on again, off again thing for 2 years and I went through so much resentment towards him because he wasn't nearly as serious about me as I was about him. Then the second time was with an ex (big big big big HUGE mistake). He came home from college for a holiday and we met up and were hanging out and ended up making out and he spent the entire time reminding me that we could never be together again. I ended up leaving him that day, feeling like a complete whore because I blew him (He was against the idea of actually having sex because he didn't want to get me pregnant and screw his future up). I'm still really good friends with the first one, but the second one and I talk rarely and I think our little visit has a lot to do with that. So...honestly, no, I've never had a good experience with it, but then again, I'm young.