Okay, My boyfriend and I have always been of like-mind on this subject: NO BABIES! He doesn't particularly want to have kids, I don't know if either of us is physically capable of it anyway (we've been careful for over 4 years, but not THAT careful) and financially .... well, lets just say... we're artists. Like any woman in her early 20's, many of my friends as of late have been breeding. I'm happy for them, and in the logical part of my brain I know that I am not ready, and may never be. But every night for over a month I've had dreams where I was either pregnant or mother to a child. Every one of these dreams has been relatively realistic. Nothing really off-the-wall, it's our house, our friends, our life. Just with a kid in the picture. It's starting to weird me out, because I wasn't aware of any concious urge toward procreation until now. And I don't know if it's the chicken or the egg in this situation, but I suddenly also find myself gravitating more toward my friends with kids, and even the parenting forum here... Don't get me wrong - I'm not rushing into anything. I'm just wondering if any of you have any helpful words of wisdom while I am so utterly confused... Among other things, I don't want to mess up my relationship with my boyfriend. He and I really do love eachother more than any love I've ever known. Not to be cheesy or anything, but I feel like he's my soulmate... Argh! Every month, every year, I seem to find some interesting new aspect of being female! P.S. oh yes - and this was what was secretly on my mind when I started in on the whole "biological clock" thing a couple weeks ago....
I don't understand why American women have kids so early. Wait until you can afford 4 months of daycare before you decide to get pregnant.
Day care?? Wait until you (or your guy) can afford to take the time off work to take care of your baby. Would never send my kids to one of those places (Ok, so that might be because a kid died recently at one down the road from me, but still. My mum gave up work for 10 years to raise me and my brother, and whilst I don't think I'd stay off work for that long, I'd want to do so until they start school at least).
My parents shoved me in daycare like every day. Its good for children to be around other children to build up an immunity (otherwise they will be sick when they start school most of the year). Don't have kids until you can support them.
As I said in my previous message, I'm not planning on rushing into anything... Just because I'm thinking an awful lot about kids doesn't mean I'll go get knocked up tomorrow... I was just hoping that someone might have some insight regarding my SUDDEN unconcious preoccupation with children. (It's not as if I go through my days thinking "baby baby baby baby baby") I DO NOT plan to go get knocked up this week, or next. I am not planning to have a child until I am 100% finiancially and emotionally ready. That being said, I think it's a little early to argue whether or not to put them in daycare. I was mostly asking for advice about whether this could actually mean some part of me wants kids. I wasn't even thinking about it until I started having these dreams, and since then I've mostly been thinking about it as a means for finding insight into those dreams. Maybe baby dreams don't even have anything to do with babies - it could be an unconcious symbol of something else. Anyway, forget it. I'll figure it out on my own. Up here it'll just turn into a daycare argument or accusations of having kids (who don't exist) I can't provide for.
ah, i know what you mean about dreaming babies... my hubby's been dreaming about a baby girl, dreaming that i was pregnant... he's had a bunch of these dreams. he thinks maybe we've got a girl waiting for us to have her. i, on the other hand, am happy with our three sons and really don't want any more babies. now his sister is pregnant - maybe she'll have that girl for us
