Hi all, Almost two weeks ago now, me and my girlfriend of 8 months who i loved dearly had to breakup for reasons other then ourselves. We were still madly in love and incredibly upset the break up happened. Now the situation is resolved and we can get back together, however she told me last night, that two nights after we brokeup she was with another guy, no sex, just kissing. But how can i believe she ever loved me now it was that easy for her to get over me, i mean two nights later shes moved on that much shes doing shit with other guys. Its just such a shame cause i still love her so much. Gary
Too bad pal. Seems like she never dug ya as much as you did her. Don't worry there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Perhaps she was just taking comfort in the presence of another. I'm sure she thought of you the whole time.
it's easier to be hard or mean than show your true feelings, for her, it was easier to be distracted by someone else. i did what she did(in the far away past), we got back together. i never stopped loving him, i just acted out. don't fret, i'm sure u can trust her. plus, on her behalf, she TOLD you. that shows a sense of trust
trust her? eventually yes. immediately, well, that's up to you but c'mon, it took a fair bit of courage to even let you know that it happened, didn't it? And better than omitting it or lying about it
fuck her move on. two days after you guys broke up. thats fucked up. sure it took courage, but fuck man, thats painful, and if you get in too deep with this, you could hurt yourself even more later than now. who knows, maybe the next break up could be a quick hand job or some pleasureless sex. and sure you guys werent dating, but if she had feelings for you than why did she hook up with him? and maybe she broke up with you just to get with another guy. its up to you man, my only advice, get out before its too late.
The first thing i can say is this: You can't know if she really loves you, that's very hard. on the other hand, the fact that she was honest enough to tell you what happened with the other guy, thats good cause that means she wants things to be straight. The fact that she made out with another guy doesn't mean she 'got over you' sometimes we girls do stupid stuff to try to prove ourselves things we know they're not true. Maybe she did that to see if her feelings for u were as strong as she felt as stupid as it sounds, or maybe she did it as an impulse, meaningless. If u really love her like u say u do i think you should let her know how this really hurt you and that u're willing to forgive that mistake if she promises not to do it ever again.. Now the only thing u have to do is trust her.... oh and another thing. Once u talk about this and she promises and all, dont you ever bring this again... specially in a fight, if u're willing to forgive, then forget as well.
