do you believe there's someone for everyone?

I am optimistic concerning every part of life except love. I really don't think 'the one' exists for me. I'm a single man at 30 and don't get me wrong there are many facets of being single that I thoroughly enjoy, but I'd love to have a girl by my side to share life with. Its just that relationships just don't seem work for me. When I give they take me for granted, when I don't give they dog me.

I'm as happy as can be being single, but part of me still wants that someone to share my life with everyday, but man after so many failures at the relationship game, I feel pretty fucked up about it all.

Never thought I'd end up as someone who has 'baggage', but I guess I have a few suitcases to share.

 

At least one. Dude... I'm not gonna get into all of this, but YES. there definitely are like 6% of the world population that will fit you perfectly. You just have to find them. They exist for everyone.

 

6% eh?

 

you both just have to be real and if you're he right person for one another and allow somone inside of you to really know you and vice-versa it will happen. The crap gets tiring just treat a girl nice and if she takes you for granted give it a few days and chalk it up to pms heh. I think being real and honest going into a relationship is the key to scuccess-scary as fuck because you want to be your best self, act as if you have no baggage-and when I say you I mean everyone but in relaity that just haas the potential of ruining something with somone that could have been the right one for you. we're all giuilty of it and unfortunaley we somtimes don't realize that our innocence is lost, thus lying not only to the other person but to our selves' in what we want and where things hsould go and who we truly are. Luckily I'm 24 and have the luxury of time and youth d:

 

Yeah man I know how you feel. I believe there is someone for everyone but everything seems so enclosed with individuals. Do you think if you were to win the Maine's state lottery that the 6% would suddenly elevate to an amazing 80% or something?

 

perhaps someday I'll have it all figured out like that

 

none of us will ever all have it figured out it's a learning process and you can have the perfect person nd the shitiest curcumstances and not have it work out or the perfect convineitnt situation but no perfect person. I think it's a life long learning process but you have to have the ideal circumstances and the ideal girl/guy at the sametime sometimes those things make timesharder to deal with or figure out. I think finding an oppositte no let me phrase it as complimentary person compared to yourself is the ticket to succes provided the other two necceitities are htere/ I't's like maslow's hiiearchy of needs. you have to have you food, shelter, water and saftey conbined withlove because love without the basica human neccesities never work. god i need to take a break from men heh

 

understood

the combination I look at is finding someone whom I adore whom also actually wants to complement me - I've experienced the former and the later, but neither both at the same time. hence the pessimism

 

well it won't ever be a perfect fit with anyone...but i'm pretty sure there are quite a few out there who want YOU for life. Seriously, i think prayer to God, universal divine, whatever is really important for finding these people we match with.

 

same here either not interested in my interests so it makes me wnat to tell them to fuck their's (I believe I may have beenguilty to saying this to past lovers...not wuite sure though) at all or codeling me to such a degree where I don't even get the chance to know them and their interests. hey relationships rarely survive when people don't hvae similar or complimentary tastes. You'll meet a little hottie at one of your shows who is all educated beautiful and spiffy though and forget this thread. I mean just look at 2 years ago and how much you have grown since then=everything you've been through nd now ya got this swell job and live in a cool town i understand the jist of the first song be happy for the new things and you're not very proactive when it comes to love from what ive seen on here so be hapy with what you have-yo u have A LOT not my new bmw 325i :d but still you have a lot

 

perfectly articulated you don't have to pray I am sure many girls will eapress that they want a ring and a life...girls are like that

 

You're right. I'm no where near proactive enough when it comes to love. I have a wall up, I've got baggage, I think I admitted to that in my first post in this thead.

 

shit I have so much bagge I need one of those luaggae carts at the airports to help me carry it around heh...everyone has so,e baggag e as lomg as you're honest n the begining it can be worked o nhtough just blunteness in the biginging and sweeteness aftera few months those were the halthiest wats for ,e

 

I believe there are a few people for everyone that they could spend their life with and be truly happy. But I believe there is only one twin flame for each of us. But there are different truths for everyone, depends on choice, karma etc...

 

Well I have two women in my life that I feel are my soul mate. Or I guess Kindred Soul to be technical...

sigh...

 

look who's spoilt for choice eh?

 

yar, i believe theres someone for everyone. its just a matter of crossing paths.

 

EXACTLY...I guess if you're really mant to b eotpgether you join pahts npt drtour one fro theirs or nice ceraa

 

yeah... I wouldn't wish the situation I'm in on anyone...

 

One of my favorite lyrics from Ryan Montbleau

And it seems that…
One love is far greater than many
One feeling never can be ignored
Two times the fun can be far too many
And too much of a good thing ain’t no good



balancing two lovers seems too complicated emotionally for me. Some people seem to pull it off just fine, but its not for me.

In truth, I do enjoy being single because life is simpler for me that way as I am able to go out enjoy my passions without someone putting restrictions on me. But, you have times like this weekend where I had the best time, but got kind of bummed out after the fact because being able to share that with someone would make it mean even more.