What's my problem?

I have a big trust issue. Whenever somebody tells me something I have a very hard time just taking their word for it. Why is it I can't just believe somebody without some sort of proof? I mean, is it really that difficult to just believe in somebody? Especially somebody who has never lied to you. Why doubt them? These are all questions I constantly ask myself, yet it as soon as somebody tells me something I assume it's bullshit.

 

OK, based on that paragraph alone, you want a list?

 

Please?

 

early on you were taught that people are untrustworthy. it may be so far back you don't remember. or you're trying to be forgiving, but forgiving isn't the same as forgetting. you also really care about what people tell you, so you want verification, unlike myself who'll not question because i truly don't care.

 

Actually, that is a quality that you can work in your favor...there are a lot of liars out in this world, and I feel that trust is something that has to be earned anyway. But I never trust someone 100%. People will lie to you and run all over you just to get what they want and leave you in the dark.

 

spongebob squarepants is a really funny show.

 

that's a lie right? lmao...

 

Mmmmm Irish Cheddar...

Mmmmmm....

 

I have trust issues myself in fact i am what the lady i work with calls, tainted. My mom says i am callous. I do not trust many people because i expect them to just to fuck me over in the long run, maybe not at first but eventually it will come.

i dont know why you dont trust people i know for me it was probably living a life full of lies with the good ol ex. once bitten twice shy.

hopefully one day i will learn to trust people. but for now, it aint happenen.

 

This isnt a problem


People can be fucking liars, I say keep being critical.

 

I feel pretty much the same way. I try and put past failings in relationships behind me, but when someone new shows paterns similar to that of a former girlfriend (dishonesty, potential for infidelity), I lock right up and have a hard time of giving much of myself to them.

 

so sucks to be us huh???

 

yeah, we definitely have some suckitude

 

ha ha suckitude?? I LOVE IT!!

 

maybe,you are protecting yourself from any further pain or disapointment .....no one can hurt you if you don't put your faith in them to begin with......i remember hearing this somewhere;"rule#1.trust noone...rule#2.never forget rule #1........can't remember where i heard it but.....it sure stuck in my head....i hope that someday someone does something really nice for you and all those walls come crashing down .....wishing you peace.............

 

Thank you. I heard a couple of rules myself. Rule #1, Mom is always right. Rule #2, if Mom happens to be wrong refer to rule #1.

In all seriousness though I'm sure that does have a lot to do with it. I just don't understand why I can't accept things at face value. Many of my friends are honest to the point of being brutal sometimes, yet I can't just accept that fact. I know it has upsides to it, but it just makes me feel like a bad person at times you know? I mean who distrusts those that have repeatedly proven themselve?

 

isn't it funny, how the walls we build in our minds prevent us ,from enjoying the people that we love and care about,the most?

 

It doesn't have that effect on me. I enjoy the people I love very much when they are around it is when they are not around that I find myself not enjoying the other things in life.

 

Kinda like when I told you that I could kick your ass and you didn't believe me. If you want proof come down to Georgia. I think it's better to doubt people. I get so irritated with the kind of people that trust everyone. I believe that people should earn my trust. But hey I'm just a bitch so why take my word for it.

 

There is no earning my trust. You can prove yourself monday through friday, time and time again, and come saturday I'm going to need more proof.