Ok, so here's the deal: I've had one girlfriend ever, and I didn't have to do anything to start it up. I'm a complete nubie at that. Now there's this girl in my Poli-Sci class who I think is really beautiful, and would like to at least get to know her. So I've got two questions: 1. How to start talking to her...Just bring up some random class question or what? If I do that, how do I keep said conversation going far enough to #2? 2. How do I get from mundane conversation "hi what's your name" stuff to "do you wanna go grab a milkshake?" Not a beyonce milkshake. An actual milkshake.
1. and 2.: Just go there, ask her name and tell her u would like to invite her a drink somewhere, a milkshake or whatever u want ...... be positive and show her that u're confident.. that actually helps, dont feel scared or anything, that's totally normal.
Well, as a girl... I would just melt if a guy were to come up to me & introduce himself politely then say something simple like "I'd really like to get to know you better... do ya think we could go out for milkshakes sometime after class?" Real easy, real harmless, and real sweet would be what I'd fall for Oh... and if you offered to treat??? Wow, that would be just TOO cool to refuse! love, mom
I'd definiately expand on a class discussion (because her brains rock your socks too, right? RIGHT?) then say, I have a bit of time, could we grab a snack? (you know if you say milkshake she will be vegan)
You give great advice.... anyway, what you could also do is try and see what kind of things she likes, like if she had a band tee or has a magazine or something, try and get her to talk about something she loves.......
Thanks for the thoughts. I think my two main problems are that I know absolutely nothing about this girl, and I have no balls when it comes to stuff like that. I can't even look at her in class when I sit next to her 'cause I don't want her to think I'm a creep or anything. I think Homeschoolmama's idea is probably the way I'd go, is there any reason on the face of the earth for her to be weirded out by that? Edit: I will grow a pair, though.
Yeah sure, if she can't stand honest guys, or you have 3 ears and purple smoke coming out of your nose she could totally think you're a nut. But other than that? No, girls don't mind finding out that a guy is interested in them. Now if she's already got a boyfriend (or girlfriend?) or something it might be a little uncomfortable for a moment, but the best way to handle that would probably be to laugh & say "oh well, can't blame a guy for asking!" and make a hasty retreat. Go for it. You've got nothing to lose, right? love, mom
That's good, the only thing I could see going with is that it's sort of weird.... if you've never talked to her, have barely looked her in the eye (lol) then she might just look at you, asking her out, and think "where the hell did you come from?!" You know what I mean? Average good idea, I think, would be to just start talking to her, briefly, small talk. Next time you get a paper back or something, just look over at her and say something like, "Man, she was a pretty tough marker on that last one, hey?"... or anything applicable! Lol She'll at least acknowledge you, maybe laugh or just say, "yeah..". Ask, "So, how'd you do?" At least this way you've started speaking to her, and the next time you're in class you can talk to her more. Just be friendly. When you come in and sit down, look over at her, smile, say "Hey." Just talk to her casually about anything. After a few classes, once she knows who you are & has spoken to you briefly, say something casual like, "I'm starving... do you want to grab some lunch with me in the caf?" and smile. That's easy and cool and doesn't make you look creepy at all - just innocent and hungry and interested in having a lunch companion. If she says no, or she's busy, that's cool. Just keep chattin with her in class, and after a week or so, I'd use mama's advice above, and ask her a little more formally, if she'd like to go for a coffee "sometime". Good luck! ~Peace
Oooh, that could work! Or even "Ya know, I've sat next to you for .... weeks/months and I still don't even know a thing about you!" Yeah, that oughtta work love, mom
You could do what I did about 3 years ago...i was in the movies parking lot and i was waling away from the theatre while a group of girls were walking torwrds it and i ran out in front of this car and it slammed on it sbreaks and they were like "Oh my gosh!" and I said to the girl i had my eye on...."Did anyone ever tell you that youre beautiful you can stop traffic?" she blushed her friends laughed, i got her phone number and went back in the theatre for a second movie....but I was 15 then and i doubt that would work now lol
seriously man females aren't sharks waiting to bite your hand off....just introduce yourself and tell her she caught your eye or something and that you would like to take her out or whatever to get to know her.......or lets say you are having a quiz or test or something that people have been stressin gover, just ask her how she feels abou tit or wahetver and say well there's (whatever restaraunt) up the roaed...why dont we go there after the test?
Aim to make her know you want to know her rather than have sex with her. Or better yet - stay away from her. Broken hearts aren't very nice. (excuse me for being blunt)
I don't want to have sex with her, and I do just want to know her. I'm still a virgin, and not looking to change that anytime soon. It's been my theory that you should be friends before you're romantic, so that's what I'm looking for at this point. I'm trying to do it in a way that isn't totally insincere, though, cause it really bugs me when people start meaningless conversations with the end point already in mind. That's why I'd prefer to just start out with "I'd like to get to know you."
