What Can I Do?

Keep us updated. Been reading this thread and now I want to see the outcome

 

Hahaha, yea, I'd like to see the outcome too! I'll keep y'all posted, this is a pretty interesting situation I'm in...

 

wow. so i finally got around to reading this thread (sorry it was just cause it was so long) and i feel like i read my story but in the male context and a few details changed. weird. i don't have any advice or anything though cause all that happened to me was i moved away. but we had been seeing each other in the end.. kind of secretly.

 

I'll tell u what, I think your lady likes u a lot!

I used to do that with guys I liked when I was younger and unexperienced...

Just stay cool, and let her know (don't tell her directly). I'd b surprised if she turned u down. Go get her, and don't forget to tell us!

 

Wow, I think I've built up enough confidence now, thanks guys! Like I said, I'll tell you what happens, but I just wanted to thank everyone so far for their advice, it made me feel so much better!

 

If she's never had a boyfriend before then it is probably that she is either scared, doesn't know how to act or doesn't want other people to know how she feels. When I was younger I used to be mean to the guys I fancied without even realising it, as a way of protecting myself from any sort of rejection I might get. I think she does like you because if she didn't like you at all I think she would just ignore you. I say casually tell her how you feel- my ex boyfriend told me by saying that our friends had been saying we should get together and then asked me how that made me feel- and it worked! Hehe.

Good luck, hope it all goes well!
Summer. xx.

 

Update! Well, I haven't seen her yet, but I see her tommarow and tuesday, and there's a new development. I also happen to be house-sitting both of those days... :H Well, I better not give myself false hope because I know that there's no chance of anything happening, and even if there was a chance, it would be as slim as the Pee-Wee Herman show coming to prime time television. So, we'll see what happens, if anything, and I'll try not to 'script' what I'm going to say!

 

well good luck man, whatever happens i hope it turns out well.

 

Hey, cool man! I'm definitely waiting for the scoop on how it goes. Good luck, my friend! I think things will go over just fine...

 

Damn. Nothing yet. I talked to her for a bit, just random talk. I told her about my situation right now VERY casualy, and I didn't script anything I said. I thought I did fine, but after a few minutes she just walked away and started talking to other guys and people who are more important than me, and guys that are "hot". It pisses me off becasue the guys she talks to are guys that are only concerned about getting in her pants, and could care less about her at all. But then I actually care about her, and want to make her happy, and I'm just ignored. I don't know, I'm just so confused. Most would just say give it up, but its hard to when you love someone as much as I do. I just don't want to see her do something I know she doesn't want to do. I just wish that she would 'see' me for once, instead of just walking past me.

 

Oh man, I really feel for you. I know the way you feel. Look, don't give up! Maybe she walked away because she didn't know how to respond to you. You said she never had a boyfriend, so maybe she got nervous.

Maybe you should try just coming out and BOLDLY say something to her. Just tell her that you really like her, you want to make her happy, and that you would like to take her our or something. Try being more direct than before. You have already taken the first step, so you can't stop now! Good Luck, man!

 

Thanks man, I appreciate the kind words! Well, she DID walk away from me right after I started talking about the house-sitting thing. Maybe that's a sign for something? I don't know. I just hope you're right, deep inside I think you are, but I've just got to make her realize it, too.

 

hmmm now this is just an idea, i don't know if it would help at all (maybe someone else could yay or nay it), but when you finally talk to her, why don't you say something like, "why do you push me away? i really like you and i see you trying to ignore me, do you actually hate me or what? ..." ersomething...
hmmmm

idunno. she seems like just a bit of a drama queen (sorry i dont mean to insult at all, it's just an impression) and most often i've found that personality is best dealt with with harsh reality, if that's what you'd call it.

just, cutting through the drama if that makes sense in the least.

///sigh. good luck, again

 

Yeah, that's kinda what I was trying to say earlier. Just come totally clean with her, and if she doesn't like it, then it just wasn't meant to be. If it doesn't go over well, it'll still be ok. You'll find the right girl for you, even if this girl isn't her. But anyway, best of luck!

 

I actually kind of tried that earlier this year. I finally just got the nerves to ask her at school one day, "So, why DO you hate me so much? I've never done anything wrong to you, and if anything, I've been one of the nicest people here to you." So then she asked, "What do you mean, I'm not mean to you at all." Then she gives me that "whatever" look, rolls her eyes, and walks away. That went well. So, yea, I agree she is a drama queen. But I suppose I could try again. No harm in it I guess! I guess I'm just so scared of telling her how I really feel. I believe that if I do, maybe she'll finally turn around, but I'm still so inexperienced that I just shake when I try to say it :&. Like I said before, I'm just tired of being ignored by trying to be nice to her, whereas guys who don't give a rat's ass about her get the attention. It just boggles my mind. Well, I'll try asking her why she pushes me away like she does. I think it would really help if I could ask her when its just us, becasue that's when she's the nicest to me anyway. I'll see how this goes...Hopefully well!

 

ask her


she will answer


you will know

 

wait i take that back

why do you want to be with someone who treats you like crap?

its as much as an enigma as why she wants to be with people who treat her like crap

if your a nice person, you deserve better

now believe it!

 

Well, another update. I haven't really gotten anywhere yet, but I think I may have found my perfect opportunity. I'm going to dinner with her tommarow! Finally, a small sign of progress! Well, as far as she sees it, it's a "friendly" dinner, but maybe I can non-chelantly change that. I hope I can. As always, I'll just try to be indirect, and if it looks like its working, then I'll say something more direct. Oh, and Retrogroove_grrl, I can totally understand what you say, but I can't just forget about her. Its hard, when you feel the way I do, you can't just all of a sudden give that up. I'm a nice guy, yes, so maybe I can finally get her to see that, and in turn she'll turn nice. I know she has it in her, but for some reason I never get to see it. Yea, it is an enigma why she wants to be with people who treat her like crap, instead of me, THAT I still don't have the faintest clue about...

I know I sound so immature to you all, but cut me some slack, I'm new to this! :&

 

:X Here's an evil trick: After the dinner, go to a place without any nearby toilets. Buy a watermelon and eat it with her. Make her eat lots. Then drink water (lots) and then sit on a cold surface, cold tiles or smthng.
After half an hour, this will force her to fart. Farting will make her lose her self confidence, if she cares about you.

If shez spitting the watermelons seeds around and farting then you're her best friend.

 

Great, Butters! I hope you can finally get through to her and let her know how you care for her. Good luck!

Hahahahah! Wow...