so me and my boyfriend have been dating for awhile and were friends for quite a long time before that. i really care about him and everything, but im getting quite frusterated. we are both 18 and you would think being a guy of that age i would have no problem getting him to fool around with me but that is not the case. i am always the one to start things up and thats even if i can get him to stay for a bit without him "calling it a night." Its frusterating because we are fantastic in every other area in our relationship (talking, cuddling, blah blah). But i find myself getting more and more frusterated and im wondering what the deal is. He has noticed my frusteration and he asks me whats wrong, but what am i supposed to say? this has got me very concerned and i really don't know how to bring this up to him or how to even phrase it to him without feeling embarassed. i duno, any thoughts?
Belive it or not, some guys are'nt just into sex that much. He might just not want to. Is he real nervous with his body, like he won't take his shirt off, stuff like that? Just sit down and talk to him normal like. It's really nothing to be embarrassed about.
no he's not nervous at all, he's just fine if it start it. its just i always have to i guess get him into it and even then its a gamble. it just has started to make me feel frusterated.
i was with this guy that i liked for a long time and he kissed me and i had to open my eyes in the middle of the kiss cause i wanted to make sure it really was him there. and then afterwards whenever we were together, he had to kiss me first or make some move cause i always had a hard to believing it was real. maybe that's it? or maybe he's gay...
i don't think he's getting it anywhere else. how experienced is he? he might just not be to a stage where he feels comfy making the move. just talk to him though.
is he shy? about doing things like that with you. cause thats they way i am. i can be jumpy and all that crap but i just can never make a move.
and right there is the problem. if theres anything i've learned about relationship problems it's that the number 1 cause is always communication. if you can't communicate to him that your frustrated in the fact that he's not making the move, he'll never figure it out and you won't get anywhere in the area. what are you supposed to say? start with how you feel, and tell him the truth. don't worry about how he'll take it, just get out what you need to get out. the only thing though is you should be cautious not to be judgemental, or accusing as this won't help the matter, and he'll likely become reclusive and defensive. be open, be honest, you've obviously got a good background to work with as you said your relationshp is great...a little thing like this won't ruin what you have.
Just tell him your horney and want to fuck the shit out of him. That always gets me going. Im not into sex like the typical stereo type guy is, but i do absoltely love making love to my girl. Nothing makes you feel more close to them. It kinda upsets me when they get upset that I tell them i dont want to have sex. I do like the straight-up answer or comment though "I'm horny, fuck me" lol That usually turns me on so much for some reason.
