how to restrain from ejaculating/orgasm

hey any help on this subject would be greatly appreciated, each time my girlfriend and I get together to get sexually active, I never manage to hold my self from blowing my load and it's frustrating me very bad...I try to remain calm but it just seems impossible around her, she's far to attractive. As soon as she gets near the area or slips her hand down to begin I always lose it..someone help please..any teachniques or ways to prevent this? thanks in advance.

 

anyone??? help???

 

When I was younger I trained myself to not come early when I masturbated. As I felt the pleasure in my dick rise toward orgasm, I would back down on the stimulation, or think about something that wouldn't stimulate me for a little while so that the feeling would go down. Also, if I'm having a prolonged masturbation session, or having sex, if I feel an orgasm building, and I'm not ready to come, I've trained myself when I masturbate to be able to get right to the edge of and orgasm and then remove the stimulation, and a lot of the semen that's built up will kind of pour out-then, after a few seconds I can go back at it again and last a lot longer. It's tricky, though, because when you get to that point you have to remove all stimulation or it will go into a full-blown orgasm. It's really about learning how your body responds and masturbating is an excellent way to do it. Sometimes when I was younger, when I was with my first wife, I would just go ahead and masturbate not too long before we made love-sometimes we'd masturbate together-so that my sensitivity would be lower when we fucked and I would last a lot longer. When I was with my ex, I would always make sure that she came once or twice, and that she was already kind of tired before I let myself lose it. If the feeling got too intense too early, I might pull out for a few seconds and let the feeling go down, or sometimes I would get almost to an orgasm and pull out and let the excess come flow on to her tummy, then rest a few seconds and re-enter her-then I could last much longer, but you have to make sure she doesn't touch it when you do that or it will rise to a complete orgasm. She knew that I always held back until she was tired, and sometimes it even made it hard for me to come later-sometimes if she was tired from her orgasms, she'd just tell me "c'mon, don't hold it back baby" and she knew if I really gave it to her hard it would make me come, so she'd pull her legs back to her chest and tell me "C'mon, drive it in deep, give it to me hard, c'mon, give it to me" and when I'd keep thrusting hard and deep into her it wasn't long 'til I erupted into her pretty little belly.

 

stop thrusting about like a scoolboy ....and hold your breath for a half a moment ....you wont blow yer cargo when your holding yer breath .

 

holding your breath? i'll give that a try...what about the pc muscle? how do you exercise that, i hear that you can completely stop an orgasm and control it whenever you want if that muscle is strong? anyone know about it?

 

yea its kegel excersises and it does work/help

heres a better explaination

http://www.childbirth.org/articles/kegel.html

 

thanks alot, anymore type of exercises or ways? and about the kegel exercises they say 200 times a day, but for how long of a period is it? week? month? any idea?

 

all the time!!!! kegels are a lifetime thing
well for women anyway it's recommended to do three sets of fifty EVERY day.
the results are WELL worth it!