sometimes hurts worse than the actual break up process itself. Even after you've moved on and have no desire to be with an ex - when you find out things after the fact - the 'after shocks', they can tear you up inside. When you know that not everything was on the table at all times while you were together. I don't know about you all, but when this happens to me, I wish I could change out of my skin as it feels so violated and dirtied. Especially when you honestly do still care about your ex and want to be there for them as a friend. yet, I always forgive.....
This is why I stick to me policy of we can never be friends. When you try to be friends you learn things and it hurts. Or even when you aren't trying to be friends it can still hurt. Best thing is to completely remove that person of your life and only let them be in your mind and heart. Forgiving is the best thing you can do for yourself. Forgiving that person and yourself for whatever went wrong. You will honestly always care for your ex, sucks but it is true..... and I wonder why the hell it has to be that way.
I totally agree...The breaking up part is always hard, but i get through it....Then later when it actually sinks in what we had and what is now lost and will never be again...that is when it hurts the most.
It is so much easier said then done, but the best possible thing to do is let this person go. This person came into your life and left your life for a reason. If they were not honest enough with you when they held your heart in their hands, why continue letting this person control your emotions. Obviously this is not a person you want consuming your life, emotions or thoughts. I know how hard it can be to let someone go, but if you can forgive someone who has hurt you this bad, you will be taking a big step towards healing yourself. Don't get hung up on someone who obviously wasn't a good person.
I feel the same way em, depending on the relationship and how much you love the person. I am 'friends' with a few of my ex's. We don't call each other or anything, but when we see each other, its relaxed and there is no animosity. Two of my ex's, especially my most recent ex, I just don't see being friends as a possibility as much as I want to be there for them. The reason being is despite everything that went wrong, I know I will always love them and would want to be more than friends
