my gf says she has never had an orgasm. strange? she says that if she does, it would be vaginal and not clittoral, and claims that it doesnt bother her because women do not reach their sexual peak til their 30's, so she might be able to orgasm then. how can i change this? is it uncommon?
Waiting til her 'sexual peak' to have an O, that's ridiculous. Not all women peak sexually, it's certainly not guaranteed, she's putting too much weight on this. Women who do not enjoy sex at 29 do not suddenly enjoy sex at 30-something. The experience gained by both men and women by this age to a large extent accounts for the sexual peak, and meaningful experience should be sought right now if she hopes to reach her peak. She needs to be informed that only 20% of women climax vaginally, many have tried for a long time and without success. Ask her how willing she is to go to her grave never knowing an orgasm and being a dull lover. Is it just oral she has problem with, maybe u can stimulate her g-spot or finger her clit. Foreplay is part of sex. Use lube and stimulate her clit, tell her ur engaging in 4play and not just clit play.
I can have a vaginal orgasm and I do almost everytime we have sex. I will have smaller orgasms that build to one big one, then I need a break. My hubby says I am like a man in that respect. haha! But it seems odd that she would show no interest in achieving orgasm. Maybe she is embarrassed and feels like she is defective? Like it is a failure to her and she thinks it makes you feel bad. She needs to explore herself and find out what makes her feel good. You know until recently, I had zero interest in masturbating. I guess being brought up in the catholic faith can do that to a person. But, I am starting to make up for my lost time!
don't you hate that!?! i defintaly didn't wait as long as you did, but i still know what you mean. i figured masterbating out in 4th grade... but up until i was 14 or so, i was really pious and devout. i felt rediculously guilty about it, and the idea of looking my priest in the eye and telling him i touched myself was scary as hell. but after a while i realized that it was natural, and it felt good. i've since more or less left the church, but i'm just glad i didn't let those nuns get to me too much. i'm glad you're getting the chance to get to know yourself now. it helps soooo much!
I think I worked in reverse. I figured out what felt good through sex, and now I am masturbating to get that when sex isn't possible. I think with me it was definitely a guilt thing with me, and now I feel so liberated. I can do what feels good while I still can, and I'm not going to let someone else tell me I am wrong to do it!
