It's *over*

awww are you in Canadaaaa? i don;t have msn, but i can download it. we'll chat sometime, ok? maybe i can even make you a dreadbead or somethin...business is slow these days ;p

 

oh groovy

I need some more of that kinda stuff

 

more dreadbeads?

 

yeah... dreadbeads are awesome

 

PM me

 

actually a lot of that advice is BAD advice. some of it has truth to it, but a lot of it is bad. like trying to find another guy? rebounding after such a long relationship is totally unhealthy to her AND the possible new guy. when you break up with someone you basically need to stay single for at least a year to allow your heart to heal.

i also disagree with the friendship thing. i have remained friends with most of my exes (save for one, who was a total bag-a-douche-a). my most recent ex and i are really good friends. sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. if the two people had an amicable breakup, usually it's pretty possible. if it was a messy breakup, chances are that friendship is really hard if not impossible to maintain. most of my breakups have been mutual, with no hard feelings, so it was easy to change the relationship to a friendship. with one relationship, it was messy, so i don't talk to the guy anymore. that has been my experience. it's definitely something which shouldn't be PUSHED by any means, but it's NOT impossible in ALL cases. most of the time, i've found staying friends with the ex actually helps me heal from a breakup because we get to talk things out with each other instead of having all these negative feelings floating around the universe...

also, i disagree with getting rid of everything that reminds you of an ex...while it's unhealthy to keep EVERY SINGLE artifact from an ex, it doesn't usually hurt to keep a few small, sentimental items/some photos. sometimes having these things can help you look back on your life and show how much you've grown since that time. i'm not saying that you should keep every picture of the two of you together up on the wall (that would freak possible new lovers out more than likely), but keeping some photos tucked away is not bad, in my opinion. i have a couple cards my most recent ex gave me, tucked away in a box. i don't look at them or anything, but they are sweet, and it will be nice to remember that someone did indeed love me that much. i haven't thrown a single photo of him/us away, either. i don't want to divorce myself from 3 whole years of my life, because while the relationship didn't work out, i still have good memories of it that time and i don't want to pretend it didn't happen just because we didn't stay together.

this kind of mentality of having to get rid of everything really only applies if the relationship was really unhealthy, unpleasant, or abusive. that's the only time i would feel the need to purge myself of every single thing than reminded me of someone.

 

Yeah, I'm in Canada. It's beautiful up here, you should come see.

You definetly have to download MSN, so that we can chat. I'd love to hear from you. As I said, I'm sure we'd hit it off.

And I would LOVE a dreadbead!!! PM me, and we'll talk about it, more in length. I'd love to have a beautiful peice of your work, in my hair! That would be too cool!

Talk to you soon, love.
James

 

hehe canadas not too far off from where i should be going to college, lol. i downloaded msn also.

under your name it says "mango kush"-thats so funny, cause i got an amazing deal on a hige 8th of that from a kynd dreaddie mama in the lot who wanted to trade me my peyote stitch necklace for it!! best stuff i ever had, btw.

oh, and i'll pm ya about the dreadbeads..i have way too many! thanks papa

 

You know, I was in a situation like this when I was six month pregnant with the man's son, and I came home from my sis's, and he had already moved in his new g/f...I know how you feel....People always told me give it time and the wounds will heal, and you will realize that everything works out for the best. I didn't believe them. I just wanted to mope and cry and put everything back to normal. I even begged the bastard. Well, he hasn't even been back around to see his son, who is now six months old. I had the baby alone. But, I realize now, that it was for the best. I am out dating now, and dating normal guys at that; and it's great; I have friends that respect me now. Just give it time.

 

You know, I was in a situation like this when I was six month pregnant with the man's son, and I came home from my sis's, and he had already moved in his new g/f...I know how you feel....People always told me give it time and the wounds will heal, and you will realize that everything works out for the best. I didn't believe them. I just wanted to mope and cry and put everything back to normal. I even begged the bastard. Well, he hasn't even been back around to see his son, who is now six months old. I had the baby alone. But, I realize now, that it was for the best. I am out dating now, and dating normal guys at that; and it's great; I have friends that respect me now. Just give it time.

 

You know, I was in a situation like this when I was six month pregnant with the man's son, and I came home from my sis's, and he had already moved in his new g/f...I know how you feel....People always told me give it time and the wounds will heal, and you will realize that everything works out for the best. I didn't believe them. I just wanted to mope and cry and put everything back to normal. I even begged the bastard. Well, he hasn't even been back around to see his son, who is now six months old. I had the baby alone. But, I realize now, that it was for the best. I am out dating now, and dating normal guys at that; and it's great; I have friends that respect me now. Just give it time.

 

'Don't it always seem to go that you don't know what you got til its gone...'
I read the thread, and I sense that familiarity, and comfort led him to start to take you for granted. The lack of thanks for the tokes is a good sign of that, he just expected you to smoke him up. If he effed up your relationship, I bet that someday he will kick himself for it. If I was 20 years younger, I would be totally psyched about getting a date with you. I have seen your gifs, pics, and posts, and in my opinion, you are a rare, beautiful young lady. You seem fun, kindhearted, confident, friendly, smart, thoughtful, and very, very goodlooking. that is a deadly combo, that is uncommon for anyone, and from my personal life, even rarer to find in someone your age. Just like so many young ladies whose posts I have read on hipforums, you are extremely wise. I wish I had been so wise at your age, but I was not even close. If I am nearly as wise, (which I can't claim to be), it was somewhere between the ages of 33 and 39 before I learned to look at life in a similar way.
I admire you, and want you to know that. Bravo!
As for love, true love is unmistakable, but until you find it, it is beyond description, and sometimes in my life, I thought I had found it when I hadn't. Once I did, though, I knew why in the back of my mind in those other relationships before there seemed to be something missing.

 

thanks. i mostly feel older because i;ve been through some bad shit when i was younger and just in general, kind of forcing me to grow up. i'm a giver, he's a taker. i'm always too loving and generous, and i never get that back. maybe he'll realize that. who knows

 

you seem like the girl i have alwasy wanted to bring home too mom but yeah you deserve so much better you have to be happy know matter what that is i hope you find your way were here for you

 

Much love and peace, GruvenMama, lots of well wishes too. Be strong

 

Hey now, Ive been in a similar situation at the end of my highschool years. My GF of 4 yrs just dumped me and started hangin out with this other dude. I was utterly devistated. I can still feel the sorrow and pain if I think about it real hard. What happened after that was I had several flings with some very nice girlies and enjoyed almost every minute of it. Of course not all the rebound turned out good but that was like 5 yrs ago. In my senior year I skipped out from my upstate NY High school to travel to W.V. for the All-Good Music Festival in June '01, it was great!. Life went on, I met more good people, had a couple relationships, and I could tell my life story which I am prone to do when I get the chance but thi point is, keep your head up and stay strong MAMA, every little thing is gonna be alright! I hope life shows you many blessings and know that Jah has good things in store for those who seek H.I.M.
JAH LOVE in The HIGHEST, Peace.

 

wow. i am really sorry about that mama. if i could i would give you a big hug. nut im down here in SE north carolina. but anyways one of the worst things to do would be to get him fucked up and then try to get close with him. my ex did that to me and it freaked the shit out of me. i was freaking out. but yesh, hugs and peace. stay strong mama!

 

thanks gor the advice you guys. i'm keepin my eyes open for fun lovin hippie papa

 

his bad for being prejudiced against italian jew girls

 

wait a minute, so he was atleast 17 and you were 14 when you hooked up... big mistake on your part, dont get emotionally involved with someone who should be almost done with college when you graduate high school, you honestly thought you were making a good decision? of course he's not mature, what did you expect from someone scoping girls way younger than him. He's probably just tired of having a playmate, and you need to find someone you own age, who doesnt drink or do drugs, and will care about you, and dont expect any current relationships to last for ever. Infact stop dating till your about 25.