Ladies!! I can't come during sex- whats that about?

I don't have orgasms during sex- I do have them from clitoral stimulation and G-spot stimulation really intensifies it. I think I might have had an orgasm once from DEEP penetration after a clitoral orgasm, but thats pretty much it. I feel really good during penetration, but I feel like maybe I am a little tense or too 'thoughtful' during sex?

Does anyone else experience this? I feel like such a loser and a shitty lover because my boyfriend humps me the right way- and I him- and it feels really good but I just can't come!

 

It's not that uncommon, chica.

You say you're too thoughtful, but there is no such thing! Try directing your thoughts at the physical sensation; imagine what is happening in your mind, and throw in some more foreplay.

 

Not a lot of women climax from sex alone. Dittle your skittle while he's pumping away and join the pleasure cruise.

 

it could be the angle that's the problem, obviously you know about the g-spot, there is a way to get the head of the penis to hit the g-spot, you just need to move his hips into position - do you feel good about taking that initiative? you obviously dig the guy, but what is the fit? has he a small, large, medium oenis? are you accommodating or quite small. Actually, your vagina shape plays a big role - did you ever read the kama sutra?

 

teehee, she said dittle your skittle!

 

I love that expression! I'm *such* a nerd.

 

It's a new one to me. I'm totally going to go on living my life on edge (it may take years) until I get the opportunity to use it.

 

Yay! I will start to dittle my skittle, I really think that will help.

 

I can't dittle my skittle at the same time he pumps away, his penis seems to be in the way or something, must be my configuration...dunno.

Anyways, don't go hard on yourself, only 20% of women can cum vaginally w/out the clit, so tis the norm. Besides, being able to cum vaginally does NOT automatically make one a good lover. There are men who will tell you that their best lover is not necessarily the one who can cum at the touch of a twig. Some men, esp. really skilled ones, like a challenge, so don't fret

But if you must cum vaginally, here's something I heard a sex therapist recommend on TV:
He advises his clients to alternate between intercourse and oral sex. It may take some practice but the man can get the girl hot enough with oral sex, move to intercourse and then back to oral sex if her arousal subsides and then when she’s about to cum revert back to intercourse until she cums, if she does. Eventually, she may be able to make the association with vaginal orgasms.

 

lol look Bella, you got everyone saying it! This is now the official "Dittle the Skittle" thread.

 

It just sounds sooo cuuute!
Thank you for the tip, liguana. I will tell the bf about it.