ego (jeez, what'd you think I was gonna say) Anyways... do you like having your ego stroked, getting compliments etc? Is your ego big enough already, or do you just not like compliments? yesterday my bf told me that he keeps seeing people check me out. Hah, I'm not sure it's really as prevalent as he seems to think, but I never see them do it and he swears people do, it made me feel all confident and happy n suchlike. woohoo
usually I respond with a "Thanks, even if I don't agree" a good ego stroking is nice, but I guess my self-esteem is so low that never agree with whatever they said.
compliments make me uncomfortable most of the time. but i don't wanna be rude and say something like "no, you're just buttering me up" or "you're INSANE." i mean, that's like telling someone they're a liar and manipulative or just plain stupid. i had to learn how to take a compliment with a simple "thank you very much." without gagging in my mouth. however, when i want some affirmation, i'm am no longer averse to saying "tell me i'm beautiful right now." dave appreciates it, makes his life easier. who knew, men aren't mind readers? my GOD! what a revelation.
Yeah, compliments are nice and I love having my ego stroked. At the same time though I like having my feelings hurt. For someone to look at me and say, "You are not that special. With your big nose"......sure it pisses me off at first, but it creates a nice balance and keeps me somewhat level.
Telling you that you can't do something you know you can do, or telling you that you basically suck at something?
I like genuine compliments from those I care for, not ego stroking. For those I am not close with I LOVE having my ego stroked and I am very insecure so it kinda puts a bandaide on the insecurity for awhile. Wrong-yes, but honest.
I'm usually really bad at taking compliments. I mean, turn beet red, look away or hide my face if I can, shake my head or tell them they're crazy. A lot of the time it does feel like taht buttering up thing, like it's dishonesty just trying to get into my pants. But sometimes it just comes across as terribly genuine, in which case I love it. I know how ya feel babe... I'm not as insecure as I used to be but I'm still nto terribly comfortable/confident in myself. But yeah, it's best if taht comes from within, though someone offering a good word now and then doesn't hurt, just keeps you on the right path. The real key is to not rely solely or primarily on others for that help/confidence
i just say thanks if someone compliments me. i think sometimes people only compliment because they want a return compliment. also, if i give one of those i feel like they might not think its genuine and im just saying it coz they complimented me kind of thing. compliments are nice but people tell me so many different things about myself that i am really at a loss to what the truth is.
i used to hate getting compliments. now i just smile and say thanks whether i agree or not. the real, meaningful compliments are the ones i appreciate
