mixed up! what do you think?

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by NovaStarwind, Feb 25, 2006.

  1. NovaStarwind

    NovaStarwind Member

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    What do you believe constitutes cheating? I don't think that past junior high making out can be called cheating. Apparently my boyfriend doesn't think the same, and now that he knows about this making out incident, is very angry, and says it IS cheating. So what's your definition of cheating? Maybe with a better idea of what other people think, I can adjust my definition to prevent more drama in the future.
    ~Nova
     
  2. KozmicBlue

    KozmicBlue Senior Member

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    I totally understand why your boyfriend would be angry about that.
     
  3. dietcoketree

    dietcoketree Member

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    yea i understand too but WHY does he care what you did in junior high if you are now 18? im guessing you guys have had to be through a lot if you are still together, and so why is this that big of an issue?.... are you still carrying the habit of "not cheating" (just making out with other people)? because i do condiser that cheating. anything that you feel you have to intentionally defend is probably of an unappropriate nature. if you have to question it, jsut be safe and say no :)
     
  4. AnnaFromGermany

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    I think, it's cheating to kiss, fuck and even flirt with someone while you are in a relationship. But everything what happened BEFORE doesn't matter (though a lot of guys don't like storys about ex-boyfriends ;) )
     
  5. Nisha

    Nisha Forlorn.

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    oh boy! at first i thought you were talking about cheating like on tests and school assignments...

    i think cheating is doing anything with another person you know yourself wouldn't like your lover doing behind your back. i know i wouldn't want my boyfriend to make out with another girl so i wouldn't do that with another guy.
     
  6. YankNBurn

    YankNBurn Owner

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    man if it is in the past and he still loves you then time to get over it and enjoy what he has and the other guys dont.
     
  7. ihmurria

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    you two need to talk about boundaries

    To me, kissing on the mouth in a sexual/interested manner would be cheating (albeit in a milder form than some). However, if it's a kiss on the lips in greeting/goodbye (as with many cultures) eh, no biggie. Depends on intent - if it's for pleasure with someone else who I haven't agreed tom, cheating. If it's because it's a cultural thing, no noticeable pleasure gained, not a big deal.

    Talk it out with him. Hopefully you two can get over it, and better define your boundaries/what constitutes cheatin gto each other
     
  8. Hikaru Zero

    Hikaru Zero Sylvan Paladin

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    I'd have to agree with ihmurra on this one.

    Hugging is what you do with friends, kissing, to me, if it's not a cultural thing, is definitely an intimite act. When you make out with someone, you're being intimite with them (even if slightly), and I would consider any kind of intimacy as cheating.
     
  9. defboatz14

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    If you think you cheated on him, then you cheated on him. Why would you do that in the 1st place?
     
  10. THEGODDESS

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    Hey Did Anyone Forget About Bill Clinton...think About That One...lol
     
  11. Texplayboy

    Texplayboy Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

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    I would be more concerned about his insecurity. RUN BABY RUN..

    besides if you WANT to kiss someone else, why hold him back... maybe he needs to put on HIS track shoes.

    good luck,

    James
     
  12. Tamee

    Tamee naked

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    everything is one love. the word 'cheating' is something I believe has no real use in the world. it is only there to put out more misery. yeah, it may hurt to know that the one you love is being affectionate to someone else, but if you really have love for that person you can accept it and still love them just the same. I believe it's perfectly natural and ok to be affectionate to more than one person, if that's what you feel, truly.
     

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