does everyone find their soulmate? will i?

at this point in my life i really feel that i need someone who i can confide in and someone to share my dreams and thoughts with. i just need somebody to love...as the song goes. there's this girl at my school that i've liked for a few years though she has never liked me back. but i feel that even though i like her that we don't have that much in common and that she doesn't understand my ways and beliefs and stuff. i don't think she is the one but why can't i get over her? and when will i find the right one? should i go out looking for her or should i just let life happen and let nature bring her to me? i just wish there was someone who understands me as there are very few people i know who really understand me at all. maybe two friends of mine. but with guys, it's harder to just talk about our deepest thoughts. that's what's cool about women they just let their feelings out. i may be a guy, but i need to let my feelings out. i've just kept them locked up for so long. when will the girl come along where i can relate to her and tell all my feelings to and love and confide in?

sorry for this thread, obviously none of you guys are going to know the answer as to when i find her and if i do. i just had to let myself out because i'm sick of being all locked up.

 

sounds like you need therepy, not a girl. beleive me, thatd probably only make your life worse at this point.

 

i don't need therapy . i really just need a cool girl who can relate to me because none that i know can but i know there's one out there for me. i just really want to find her.

 

I agree that you don't need therapy, what you're going through doesn't sound too out of the ordinary for someone your age. You just need to find friends that you can relate to, or try to open up to friends that you do have and see what happens. You'd be surprised at how much you have in common with others, really. I know I've been surprised when at times when I thought I was unique or very different from others.

My advice for finding a girl you really click with is just to take it easy- go on lots of dates, be casual about it, focus on having fun and getting to know people, and eventually you'll meet someone that will be right for you, sooner or later. Just don't worry about it though, and focus on enjoying the people around you right now because you can't force it, and if you try to do that you'll just end up causing yourself a lot of pain and frustration.

Best of luck, dude!

 

thanks man, i'll take the advice

 

I feel you man, I know where you're coming from. I feel in complete and total love with an amazing, beautiful girl who completed me, and for once in my life made me feel happy and at peace. Then she decided she just "wasn't ready", and left me to rot.

I wish I could finally meet my soulmate, its all I want in life, to be with someone who cares about me, and who I could care about deeply in return. Its an amazing feeling I wish I could have.....

 

Dr. Phil also doesn't look like he likes to excercise...that's just his opinion.

 

I DONT believe that there is just that ONE person, one person out of billions of people on 1 planet thats just impossible, and if there was just that one person, how do they always end up in the same town at the same place as their ' soulmate' doesnt make sence to me, and if they were just ment to be why do some never find their 'one' and if they were ment to be why were'nt they put together in the first place.

That, "theres only one and just one person" is bullshit, I believe that there are MANY people you are possible 'soulmates' if their werent I think alot more people would have been dieing lonley.

As for finding someone,I think that when your least looking for someone is when they come around.

 

funny how a guy has to explain this to a girl. it's called fate and it's called faith. if you don't believe in soulmates you don't believe in love as i see it. i'm not saying if this is a good or bad thing, just saying.

 

agreed

 

show me reasoning to have "faith"

 

well the thing that does it for me is that i can't stand the thought of love not existing, of the meaning of life being eat/sleep/reproduce. am i going to break down and marry some attractive woman that i'm not in love with? certainly! but for now it helps me to keep a positive mindset.

and if logic is your thing: "you say why, i say why not". with no facts ever being available you can believe whatever you want. unlikely maybe but who cares? i'm not going to change your mind and you're not going to change mine, because there is no hard evidence on either side.

 

Chill.

No one finds their true love in high school. Except Bon Jovi!

It will all fall into place. Don't fret, little one.

 

But Im not in high school Im just sayin its not to logical for there to only be ONE true love for everyone in the world, if there are billions or people to choice from, and people arent just so different from eachother that it would be just impossible for more the one person to find more then one person that they are completly compatible with.

 

Dude i agree totaly with you im going threw the exact same thing......

 

I feel your pain.I'm in search of that special person myself.

 

No... You need to BE a cool GUY...