Hi everyone! It's been awhile since I was on here and the last time I did write was about my miscarriage. I was almost 12 weeks pregnant when I started spotting and when I went to the doc's office they couldn't get a heartbeat and said the baby had stopped developing at 8 weeks. Shortly after receiving this heartbreaking news, I miscarried. My husband and I vowed that everything happens for a reason and that maybe it just wasn't our time and that we would concentrate on other areas of our life before trying again. Well, 3 months later I found out I was pregnant again. Even though it wasn't planned, you can imagine my joy at finding out I have another chance of giving life. Yet, I'm petrified! Especially now that it's nearing that time when I had the miscarriage before. I keep going to the bathroom, hoping I won't find blood. So far, I am definitely more nauseaus than before and people are telling me that's a good sign but it would help to hear some stories from women that have been in a similar situation. Everyone please send your loving and positive thoughts my way!
Hi Lotus Butterfly! Congratulations!!! I wish I could give you some some personal insight, but I have never had a miscarriage. However, I can tell you that it happens... and that everything turns out just fine! My mother miscarried her first child at 4 months. Also her second, and then her third. The doctor told her that she would never carry a child to term. When she became pregnant a 4th time, she didn't even bother pulling out the maternity outfits, and never considered decorating a nursery. She knew her baby would die. Well guess what... that baby had different ideas for her! it took a full 10 months of gestation, but I was born perfectly healty - 6 weeks late. And my mom went on after me, to give birth to two more daughters. I will add you to my prayer notebook & shall be praying for a healthy baby love, mom
Honey, I've been wondering about you. (((((Lotus))))) Don't worry. It's perfectly okay to feel so nervous that something might happen. Even though I've never had a miscarriage like that before, I was petrified throughout my whole first trimester, looking for spotting everytime I went potty. You just have to be confident that, yes, everything happens for a reason. And once week 14 comes and then leaves again, you'll heave a HUGE sigh of relief and start pulling out your maternity wear. And then your next big worry will be like mine, looking for an early mucous plug in your panties, afraid of pre-mature labor. I have every confidence that you will be fine. *hugs again*
Hey, Lotus! I'm sorry you lost your baby. The same thing happened to me. I had a miscarraige the second time, and FREAKED until the middle of my second trimenster the third time. I was fine with my third pregnancy (second baby) although, I get cramps in my first tri, and I would start to cry every time, because I thougt I would lose the baby again. In fact, I wouldn't even take a pregnancy test until AFTER I got past the point where I had lost the other baby. My dh kept saying "Maggie you are PREGNANT!" and I kept making excuses, until I was past "the danger point." I hope everything goes OK. My OB says nausea is GOOD, he thinks it denotes good placental development. When I was pregnant with Sage,(fourth baby, sixth preg) I was almost 38 years old, and one of the first questions he asked me was "Are you nauseaous?" I said, "God, yeah." and he replied, "Good!" He isn't a sadist, just that he has seem more miscarragies when there was no nausea. However some mamas NEVER feel nauseaous, and they aren't sure why. The two I miscarried, I barely felt nauseaous, the four I did carry well, I was sick as heck. Good luck to you, Lotus. Do some breathing and talk to the baby.
(((hugs))) I miscarried my first babe. It was a little earlier than your's though. My babe was gone at 8 weeks. 10 years later I was PG again and I was just so so scared. I couldn't get it of my mind, so I just rested as much as I could at the time. Just rested and ate, rested and ate. I spotted a bit at 8weeks again and I freaked out, caling my hub at work just sobbing. Yurns out it was just a little fluke That babe is now 3.5, and her sister will be 2 tomorrow and their sibling will be born in the spring There is hope, there ALWAYS is Do you know about har far along you are? Maybe you could go in for a pre natel to see if they can find the babe's heartbeat? Maybe that would help ease your mind? In any case, just rest and try to calm your mind
Thank you all for your encouraging replies! I know I'm not the first person to have had a miscarriage and it always eases my mind to hear of success stories! I am in my 10th week right now. My husband works at a clinic and said that one of the ultrasound techs told me to come in on the weekend so they could see if we could get a heartbeat. I want to but at the same time I'm afraid. If I did hear a heartbeat I would still be afraid that something might go wrong before the end of the 1st trimester. It's almost like I don't want to get my hopes up. I'm starting to feel more attached to this baby though and am getting anxious to tell people. Last time I told everyone, and then when I had the miscarriage, I had to tell them all about that too. This time I decided to wait until after the 1st tri. A few people know (besides everyone here but most of my family doesn't know yet.
I can't really help you on this, but I know, that an overdose of fear makes things worse then they seem. Try to relax, which is so much better for you and the baby. Allow only as much fear, as you need to be aware, but don't spend your time in panik. Eat well, do things that are good for you. Get massage, good food, and surround yourself with calming things :-D. Go swimming, do yoga, some crafting, whatever, get your mind away from fear. *Hugs* and best wishes that everything will be succesful this time! Love, Tanja
they say that the chance of miscarriage is greatly reduced after you get a heart beat, but i can TOTALLY understand your hesitation (((hugs))) my general rule on telling people when i get pg is, if i would want them to know i had a miscarriage, then i tell them right away, that's basically immediate family and close friends.
Honey, I know exactly what you're going through. I know the fear, the overwhelming anxiety, the many, many trips to the bathroom checking for signs of miscarriage again (I've lost two babies). I spent most of my healthy pregnancies worried about the "what if's" instead of being able to enjoy them like I wished I had been able to. But things worked out, and I have three beautiful children...a 6 year old and a set of twins who are tuning 3 years old this May. If you ever need to talk, I'll be glad to listen. Much love and many hugs...
My mother had miscarriages before and after me. I certainly have no experience, but putting what I know out there
Again, here I am out of my element, but definitely keep down the stress as much as possible. My mom had 4 miscarriages before a successful preg. and her doc told her she'd never have kids. When my sister came along, she didn't even know it. Her periods weren't regular at all, so she thought she just had a really long-lasting flu all the way till she started getting big. She swears that half the reason things worked out was because she didn't know, and thus didn't freak out over it - just kept living her life. I hope everything works out for you and your family, You'll be in my thoughts!
You are more than welcome. And I'm serious, if you ever need to vent, I'm here to listen. You're doing great mama.
Yay!!! I just had my doctor's appointment and I was so nervous, especially when it was time to hear the heartbeat...since I never got to hear it my last pregnancy, I was practically holding my breath this time. I heard it loud and clear!!! And then I got to have an ultrasound and now I have all these great pictures of my baby. It was moving around alot! The doctor said everything looked great so far and even told me the sex (about 90% sure) but I'm gonna keep that to myself until I have confirmation at next appointment. I'm so happy that I could cry.
*HUGE HUGS!* Yay, momma! Isn't it exciting? The first time I heard the heartbeat, it was my birthday. It just made my birthday so much more special. And I can't wait to find out what you're having. I still don't know for certain what I'm having, so I'll live vicariously through you I'm so happy for you. *big belly rubs*
Oh sweetie! I am so, so, so happy for you! Wow, I'm like tearing up here! How wonderful! I'm so glad to hear that everything is going so well. Awww, congrats!
Congratus on hearing the heartbeat and seeing the little one. I know how scarey the whole process is. My daughter has been going through infertility treatments for two years now. She has two healthy children but can't conceive a third time. She has gotten pregnant 6 or 7 times, but always lost it in the first two weeks. The only way she knew she was pregnant was because of the fertility stuff. Even the pregnancy tests were not strongly positive. Well after two years of hard work, I got an email a couple of days ago with this picture attached. Kathi
