i was just wondering that why are we as a society so image obbsesed? it seems that today the main factor in dating somebody is if theyre hot or not. i know this is cliche but what about a person's character or even more cliche theyre "inner beauty". i know everybody wants somebody that they like looking at but where does unconditional love come into play? i mean how wrong does this sound " i love you as long as your pretty" or "i love you but you better not get fat or im outta here" maybe im just ranting but i dunno i just think we all can stand to be a bit less shallow for our own good.
I don't think physical attraction is shallow, I think its quite natural for all animals during their reproductive years. Yes, it is the inner beauty between two people that will keep them together for the long haul, but I don't think its shallow to also have certain physical tastes in how someone looks, the animalistic attraction so to speak. I do think society does influence what is considered beautiful by the way the media defines it and promotes it as sex does sell. However, pure physical attraction between humans is very much natural just like most all members of the animal kingdom and I don't find it shallow at all for a person to have certain physical desires in addition to the needed emotional bond when considering someone for a life long mate.
The media and society in general would have us believe that we should all be chasing drop dead gorgeous men and women.. Thankfully, after stints of trying to find them, most of us reach a visual/mental compromise where we look at both the body and the soul, at least the outer soul, of people.. I guess we can make a mockery of society's expectations by treating everybody as our friend, where we very rarely judge on looks, and it's nice to reach the realisation that the person you liked the disposition of is also actually not too bad looking either, or the person you kinda liked the look of actually has a fantastic personality!
Eyes Usually I don't go... "That girl is really pretty, but the girl next to her...I Know i know...she looks ugly but umm...I bet her personality is sooo much better...I'll talk to her instead. By not being selfish and wanting more than just sex I'm really healthy, and I'm going to be attracted to someone that is healthy. IF they sit around and eat and do nothing later on I'd bring it up, I wouldn't leave them but I also wouldn't let them let themselves go.
