Difference in male/female orgasms

2 Questions about this,

1. Why is it harder for females to get off than males? Seems like so many females have sex but never even orgasm

2. (For the ladies) is the female orgasm like the males in that in can get so intense if you keep thrusting that its almost unbearable pleasure sometimes? Sometimes men will surge with so much pleasure, but do women have that good or strong of an orgasm?

 

Well, personally I usually get off in about 15 minutes or so. I realize I am a lucky one because I know most women take much longer and really have to work at it. And as far as intensity, it is hard to compare but I know I lock up when I do and it feels like something flowing through me that I don't have control over. I'd say it is at least as intense.

 

My orgasms are more intense than any partner of mine, or anybody else I've seen cum (in pornos), but women are all different. I don't cum as frequently as my partners but I make up for it in intensity. My O is like this, once I get past the point of no return my body is in convulsions that throws a surge of unbearable pleasure, much like you said in Q2. When I was younger, it took all my might not to throw my partner off me it was that intense, I've learned to harness the intensity.

However not every partner I've had could make me climax frequently or in due time (which affect frequency), some were just ineffective and gave up way too easily. My partner now can make me cum anywhere from 5 min. on, but usu. within 20 minutes.
Which leads to your first Q. Which women you talking about never cum? Are they in porn, cos that would explain it, the porn environment is not conducive to female pleasure imo. Or are they women you have been with, maybe you better google some better loving skills cos it DOES matter. Or are they women in your teenage crowd (if that's what your age is), young men and women often lack experience that is, again, conducive to female pleasure.

 

Like I was telling this girl in another in another thread, I've always come pretty easily-I can be out in public and the seam of my jeans will keep rubbing up against my clit and bring me close to having an orgasm-all I have to do is tug on the seam a few times to bring me over the edge and make my orgasm start. I've been masturbating since I was a kid and started having orgasms a few years before puberty and always came when I masturbated-I've known girls that had orgasms when they were kids just rubbing up against playground equipment and things like that. I know all women don't orgasm real easily but it's hard for me to imagine it being that difficult. It is very easy for me to orgasm while being fucked and always has been.
My orgasms have always been very intense, even as a kid. When I got older I started having vaginal contractions with the orgasm that made the orgasm even more intense, stronger, and last longer. Sometimes they're even too intense, especially if I have had a number of orgasms in the same session-each one is stronger than the previous one. I have a theory, if we're comparing male and female orgasms, that the contractions that women get in their vaginas/bellies during orgasm must be kind of similar to the ones that guys get that shoot the semen out in rhythm-I've heard that guys don't feel those contractions until they get around puberty and start ejaculating with their orgasms, and it seems like girls don't feel them 'til they get around puberty either-that's the way it was with me. Anyone know? Sometimes I wish I could go back to the way my orgasms were when I was 9, 10, 11 years old when they were real, real sweet but they weren't so intense that they half-killed me. I've seen one of my friends and my cousin masturbate plenty of times, and their orgasms are like two fucking freight trains colliding, and I've talked to a number of other women who said the same thing-this girl on another thread seemed to think that she needed a penis to have intense orgasms, and I told her that I just don't understand that at all. I know all women are different, but are they really THAT different? I dunno.

 

no i didnt say that i needed a penis, i actually said that i wish that it was as easy as those that did own a penis!, i have never had an orgasm with my hubby in 23 years, its not for the lack of trying we have done alsorts and none of it works taken alsorts of pills used creams just about falling short of using tnt!!!!! so i have just got to get used to the feeling that this is never going to happen for me and face the rest of my life having sex and never understanding the reason why you are all so committed to the cause!!!!!!! just how do you get motivated to have sex when its been a constant let down?

 

you can try viagra, it's been effective for some women. You have had an O by yourself tho, right? just a matter of getting one with your husband.

 

i havent been able to have on other than using a vib on max power and even then that is so hit and miss, i just get nowhere when i try things out on my own, i get no feeling to keep "fiddling"

 

There you have it crazyredneck, some girls can cum easily and some can't. Like I said all women are different but on average men have it easier.
If you ask why, well there no single answer for that. But here are some answers:

* difference in anatomy, boys genitals are more visible than girls and come to understand at an earlier age what pleases them. It's said that girls mature physically faster than boys but I would say that boys come to a sexual understanding of their bodies sooner than girls, the ave. age for girls to have their first O is 20, for boys thats 13.

* evolution, males have been having orgasms for eons, female orgasms are a more recent evolutionary event, there are still some inorgasmic women, so the path to the O is not as straightforward. Also, males objective is to impregnate as many females as possible, females objective is to find the best mate so it's not meant to be easy. The human race would perish if females were not selective and were so easy they would fuck anybody. Being able to cum at the touch of a twig and fuck any man just for pleasure and so no man stays and claims the kids as his own would not favour the female, and that female's progeny is less likely to survive. The evolution of the hymen supports this theory, hymens of other female species deteriorates b4 sexual maturation, it's only in humans that the hymen is existent in the adult stage. I'm not saying that women who cum easily are easy, just that it doesn't favour humans for females on ave. to have the same indescriminate sex drive as males.

* more females are subject to sexual abuse than males, 70:30 is the ratio. That's right, when a man rapes he ruins it for every other man as the victim's partner now has to work harder to help her get over it. And there are alot of rapes, most don't get reported cos the law reflects the ppl in that many don't believe there's a victim. But the female has been deeply affected and this is reflected in sex she later participates in.

* some men are just selfish, gratuitous pigs who neglect their partner. Yes, it's harder for females, get over it and do everything you can to please her or she just may turn you down for sex for now on, or better yet, find a better lover, and there are lots of good lovers out there.

 

Hey! I am willing to help you try to get off... If you're hot