Recently Single...this guy is already glued to me, help!

K, I posted about this guy in my weirdest date post lol. The thing is we have both had a crush on each other for about a year....but we dont really know each other. He is super hot but he is calling me everyday wanting to see me. Which would be ok if I hadnt just broken up with my bf less than a week ago. And the situation is more like...I want to like him but hes doing things and saying things that are really turning me off. For instance...being cocky, hes really anal about his stuff i.e clothes, car, appearance. Hes kinda a cheap date, i payed for dinner on the first date ...when I hardly ate anything. Hes really rushing into things...like trying to get freaky with me and I have to slow him down. He has made comments like he doesnt want me seeing anyone else...but ummm....im not his. Ugh its a bad situation. I think he likes me more than i like him...and im trying to like him but im a bit let down from the dates we have had. to make things worse I have a bit of a crush on another co worker, we will call him Luke. Luke is a bit younger than me, a few years. But I have told him things i havent told anyone, I like him alot actually. He flirts with me alot and has made comments to other people about how great he thinks I am...but that he doesnt think I would ever be interested in him. Im not too sure if he likes me or not...hrrm...

I exchanged numbers with Luke yesterday...but didnt tell the other guy. Yet I feel freakin guilty! But I shouldnt...... How do I tell boy #1 that i want to see other people, without hurting his feelings...?

 

The first guy seems like a jerk who's obsessed with himself. That means there's no love for you, it's all about him. He might see you as an ornament rather than an equal.

Go for Luke! Kick the other guy to the curb. I don't think you're missing too much. He is missing a great person, but it doesn't sound like he would appreciate you.

Peace & Love

 

I totally second all of that.

Go for Mr. Skywalker! I mean, Luke!

And tell the crazy clingy guy to step off. Say he's cool and all, but the clinginess is too much for you to handle. If he can't handle that ... I highly doubt that he can handle you, let alone anyone else.

 

ive been in a similar situation and to tell the truth to the guy i would have had to say "im not as into you as i thought i was now that i actually KNOW you so i dont want to see you anymore." but as that wouldve been akward for both of us i just said that due to the fact that i'd just come out of a relationship a week before i felt i still needed time to sort things out in my head and that i wasnt ready to jump right into something....to which i got the response "but why i dont understand" about a gazillion times but he eventually got the msg.

 

ick, clingy. ick, made you pay on the first date. ick, rushes things past your comfort level. ick, superficial. ick, cocky


yeah, erm, he doesn't sound like a good guy for you

 

I def. think you should tell Freaky Date that you're not interested in him that way. Just let him know you've recently ended a relationship and need some time to get in touch with yourself. He doesn't sound like someone you'd probably want to get seriously involved with anyway, eh, creepy. But I don't think you should date Luke either. He sounds much nicer, but, you're finally single, girl! You should enjoy it for a little while! I think one of the nicest things about being unattached is all the flirtations and crushes. You have no committments, and there's all that anticipation of maybe seeing them and excitement and wondering what your interaction will be like.. that didn't sound very sexy, but, you know what i mean! Relationships have their plusses for sure, but. It's hard to match that sexy powerful feeling you have when you know you're desired but possibly out of reach. I think you should have some fun by yourself!

 

Dating someone you work with is bad news...period.

 

the first guy is insecure and trying to 'grab hold' of you because he feels maybe he cant get anyone else, no matter how cocky he seems to be. a guy like that is no good. if this is how controlling he is when your not with him, then a relationship would be seriously abusive.

you probably feel guilty because while you are not returning the feelings, you arent denying them to him either. you knwo your leading him on, which is fine , but thats probably what keeps him coming back.

ditch this pathedic loser and go for luke. who cares about age. maybe hes not mr. right, but if hes mr. right now, then thats all you need. god luck with everything!