Two weeks ago, I had the same thing happen. It's crushing, I know. I felt as if I were dieing for a week....and still sometimes feel like I could die because I feel like it was my fault...but I know it wasn't. All I can really say is this was for the best......People say the only reason miscarriages happen that aren't drug induced....are because it had defects that would more than likely disable it from living outside the womb. I am so sorry for your loss....I wish I could hug you.
hi everyone, i'm ok i guess, i'm 'dealing' with it. no actually i'm not, because the pain was too much for my family and friends to see in me so i squashed it all down so i could function and now all sorts of pain from my past keeps popping up and hurting me, breakups, losses, you name it, its in my head and dreams, i just have to keep letting it out in little managable bursts and not think about it because if i do, really think about it i can't bear the sadness. people can be so blase about it because it was early but they dont understand how i felt, i was so happy and so healthy, i felt good for the first time in months, my pain went away. it was so strange and so beautiful.
not everyone feels it is too early too mourn your loss...I think that any mama who accepted her pregnancy in the early stages would feel like you do so I am sure you are not alone even if those immediate to you have not experienced the same. You sound like you really made a committment to this potential person and of course it is going to hurt if they are lost. I have heard that there is a chance that the d and c, if that is the correct term may interfere in future attempts to get pregnant but as I am not sure about ghe information I have I am thinking that as you so obviously wish to be a mumma some day it was probably for the best that everything was as natural as possible. You are very young compared to my friend I know who has gone through the same so I think you have many years of good luck and loving let and that if you can mourn this as a natural part of life for many many women you will be able one day to move on with things. Believe me you are not alone in your feelings about your unborn child as I find my friend going through evry similar things when she chooses to share herself with me. Take care of yourself and your body and loads of loving and hugging to you.
A D&C that is properly done should not interfer with future pregnancies. It just cleans out the womb to make sure all of the tissue is removed so you can start clean next time. I had one done about a year ago. Although I'm not planning on or able at this time to get pregnant because of my age, it did clean out all the junk, including some pollops (SP?) Kathi
yeh I am not really sure about the d and c thing but I had heard that there were some studies that suggested that it might affect later attempts to get or rather stay pregnant. Like I said I don't really know but it is probably something worth finding out about.
one major risk of having a D&C is what is known as Asherman's Syndrome. That is basically adhesions (scar tissue) inside the uterus. It can be very painful, cause scant periods, weird spotting at any point in the cycle, and sometimes infertility. It is definitely something to take into consideration.
