hi, i have problems. but at the minute i really loathe myself, like with a passion. i know there are probably many of you who feel the same thing form time to time and i was just wondering when this arises what do you do about? i have a habit of starving myself adn i know this isn't good for me in the long run - just wondering does anyone have any advice for me??????? i am really desparate. peace Zenry
i have a few psychiatric problems and usually when i hate myself i will physically take it out on myself. i am in therapy but was just wanting some advice that is more productive and positive rahter than what i have at the minute. peace Zenry
busy work and hobbies. it worked really well for me at the time in my life when i wanted to take a knife to my belly to cut the fat off. and what i mean by the busy work is stuff that requires accute attention and plenty of time. something that will exhaust that obsessive side of your personality without causing yourself physical harm. beadwork is great! i also kept a supply of crayons and coloring books for hard times. sometimes i'd color an entire book in one day. but i didn't hurt myself. it bought my brain some time for the therapy and prescriptions to help me.
It may sound silly, but when I get down like that, I try to say affirmations. Like, "I'm a good person", "I'm a beautiful and smart person", etc. Saying these affirmations at least 5 times in a row, 3 times a day, can really help you to see the truth in them. And in the meantime, be sure to eat healthfully and try to get some exercise-starvation only brings you down further. In fact, it's proven that starving yourself lowers your serotonin level-the hormone that regulates mood. Even if it's something small, like crackers or yogurt,make sure your blood sugar is always elevated. And of course, therapy is always helpful, as long as you're willing to trust someone. Good luck.
yeah i really hate myself now too... try to get out of that habit or startving yourself.. you might wanna just cry it out... but also figure out what youre so angry about. sometimes.. i get so so so grumpy and lazy without even thinking, "why am i like this? is it because i just wanna take a cool shower and wash away all my bad feelings? or do i wanna watch something funny on tv? or talk to 'so and so'?" write down what you hate about yourself perhaps.. but write down the good things about yourself too. when i do this usually i feel better. i get to think that im fat and starve myself.. but when io look at my pictures im likehow could i think that?" you can also ust daydream.. are you married/with someone? think about good times with them.. and just dream about you and that person... and if youre not then.. let your imagination go wild. hope this helps in some way
i'm not sure how to help you because i kind of sometimes have the same problem... I mean i make myself throw up hardly ever really.. maybe a few times a month... because i was depressed and because i felt like my thighs and ass were humungous (even though i have been told they arn't). I'm very slim and stuff but i can't help noticing my damn thighs and ass... I mean before i use to make myself throw up every night and morning because of deopression but also at one point because one of my ex boyfriends (who was my boyfriend at the time) said I was really fat and looke dlike a pig... I serious have no clue how to help you because i'm trying to get out of that (somehow) and i have some eating problems... as in i eat very little.. I mean their does come a day where I pig out...
