how the fuck do i stop my mom from doing it? my family will be talking about my 4th cousins wedding and ill say mom i dont even know her i dont want to go and she will burst into tears and start yelling and crying. same with when i say mom im tired i dont wanna go to church, more tears more yelling. how do i stop this?
Is she going through menopause? I know that's a weird question, but women have crazy mood swings when they're going through "The Change." It can last 10+ years, too.. so it might have been going on through the majority of your life, and that's why you don't recognize it. Maybe find a magazine with an article on menopause in it, and leave it open somewhere in the house. See if your mom picks it up.
plus what am i supposed to do? go to a store, walk up to a casheir and say "do you have any magazines about menopause? he would look at me as if i had 3 heads
moms don't always take well to their "babies" growing up, and you little ungrateful brats often say NO to everything like two-year olds. It's a time to readjust and BOTH sides need some give and take. My son wanted to stop attending shul. I agreed IF he would still go to the shul's seder (kinda like at least go to church on Xmas) for now that works. I do put a bit of family pressure on, but I also don't see the point of fifth cousin's step daughter's wedding. oy. Consider the house of worship a comunity experience moreso than spiritual and hey, it's only a few hours. see if you can trade off for a couple hours where mom has to butt out. the emotionalism might be because you make her feel disrespected. ask at a quiet, not confrontational time. Car drives work for my son and I . He's 14.
It could still be menopause, I think it CAN start as early as late 30's. It is less common, but it happens. Try to reason with her, but don't make a big deal about it. Don't start a fight or anything. Think about it, Church is only like an hour or two out of your whole week, unless you go on Sun. nights and Wed. nights. If that is the case, try to reson with her so you don't have to go on Sun. nights and then try for Wed. nights a little later or something. But if these things are stuff she has just recently started doing, maybe she just has something on her mind that is bothering her. Try asking her if everything is alright and just talk with her. If she has something on her mind that is bothering her, talking about it will help.
if you make your parents believe you are a good kid (good grades in school) and you never argue with them, in time you'll get to do pretty much whatever you want with no restrictions... if your parents are like mine. you could either make yourself look like a little brat and fight her or you could make yourself look like an angel even if you have other motives and/or desires. a little parental ass-kissing never hurt a child.
As soon as your old enough, move out. My mother tried pulling that shit when I was young. I moved out at 17 and never looked back. Controlling bitches never change. To this day, I don't have much, if anything, to do with her.
thats what i plan on doing. goin to someplace warm. me and a freind gonna get an apartment. maybe LA or something.
and no my mom wouldnt give any more freedom whether i had straight As and never once argued as opposed to now. i dont get bad grades either. mostly Cs and Bs. and i dont argue that often. i just think that its my choice about somethings. usually she starts over-reacting so i go down to the basement
hey that is called being a mom ................my mother still makes a big deal of my not going to mass.........and i'm 54 ...she's 78 ....the ironic thing is that i am the sexton at the church .....at least i can truthfully say that i go to church every day ..lol
My mom said I could stop going to shul and religious school after my bar mitzvah because that means I'm old enough to decide on my own. Since then, I haven't had to go (well, I did anyway for certain things). Not that we went often or anything, and my parents didnt really feel much of a connection to that community, but still, it was a reasonable thing to say. To the original poster, that's too bad about how your mom acts. I have to be taking drugs in the house before my mom yells at me. Well, thats not true, she does yell, but not seriously. Just out of stress. Maybe you should talk to your mom about how she's acting, and how its making you feel. I don't think yelling back and arguing would help, but if you stay calm, she should be better about talking to you about it.
well i tried the thing about how i already been confirmed in the catholic church so im a man in the church so i should choose that but it doesnt work
Explain to her that when she has a "tantrum" you are absolutely going to refuse to give her what she wants. Thats just good parenting.
thank god my mother is not like that but i remember once when i was little kid i didnt want to eat my food and my grandmother start yelling,crying and breaking things!That was fuckin` hysterical!
lol. man maybe now that its warm out she will take the plastic off the basement doors. you see i sleep in the basement so it would be easy for me to go out and smoke and come back without getting noticed, but she has never caught but she suspects. so she seranwrapped the back door and my window. now if i open them the plastic will tear and she will know. she uses the excuse that its to keep cold air out but she doesnt do it on anyone elses window. now that its warm her excuse is not valid
my parents just can't control me anymore, well...almost i still live in their home and i'm only 16 i think i'm lucky cause my parents never asked me going to church, cause they dont and even go themselves, the only time my mom wants me to come is on (dont remember of this day, when jesus was resurected or something, with the eggs), or else their not religious, my dad is not for sure, my mom a little
