My partner and I have been together for ten years (well in September) and we have often talked about adopting. I started the ball rolling a few days ago with my partner's ok by calling a few agencies and seeing what options there are and doing some googling about adoption in our state. My question is, are there any other LGBT members of this forum who have adopted and if so do you have any advice? I wish to speak with anyone who has gone through the process and has advice. I would even like to correspond with those who are considering like we are and haven't gone through it yet. We both have wanted kids for quite some time and with the current political climate we thought we'd better act before our chances were taken away from us. We definitely want to go the adoption route rather than surrogacy or other means. We feel it's better to give a home to someone in need rather than bring a new life into this world. We thought about foster parenting first but I was afraid that I'd become attached only to have the child taken away or returned to their family... there's so much to think about... *SIGH* Thanks again.
Oh go for it... Congrats! I just had a baby 5 months ago and they are so wonderful theya re such a blessing.
Good for you guys! Have you looked into adopting an orphan baby from China or Cambodia or Africa? Those kids are the ones that need it the most. I know a friend of mine said when her and her partner are ready that's the way they are going to go. What political changes? are they seriously going to try to prevent gays from adopting?!?
I agree, if I ever decide to adopt I'll definetly check out adopting a child from a third world country, because those kids are really the most in need, and if one day I can give just one of them a better life then that would be a wonderful, wonderful thing. I wouldn't doubt it... now with Roberts and Alito on the Supreme Court I'm petrified to think what new laws may be passed... *shudders* Hopefully the political climate will shift, though I feel we still have many a dark day before that happens... I worry that by the time I've found love and want to marry and adopt I may have to have to move abroad to do such...
^ Come to Canada. It's better up here lol. Although we do have a new Conservative PM. He wont last long though.
Thanks MaryJane69. Well there are 16 states considering legislation to ban adoption by LGBT people. Most people see it simply as a tactic to garner votes for conservatives... it's the new wedge issue for the upcoming midterm elections.
I personaly think that the U.S. will probably ban gay adopting. As Ken Schram has said, "I'm paranoid that at some point in the not-to-distant future, our children and grandchildren will ask why we didn't do more to preserve the constitutional freedoms that our fathers and grandfathers died to protect.". Because, if NOBODY has noticed, that is descrimination. If I will soon be unable to adopt, I am leaving the United States for sure. America has this horrible stereotype of gays. My parents don't know I am gay, and I heard them talking about how gay parents will just mess their kid up because we are these sex oriented people that will just create more gay people. My friend has gay parents and he is just fine, and he is planning to be married sometime this year.
The liberty, freedom and free speech afforded to 'homosexuals' in the USA is something to be marvelled at. You can barely even imagine where thousands of men could have massive parades down mainstreet boldy declaring they love and are proud to have man-to-man sexual intercourse. Magazines, producing hard-core xxx gay pornography by the thousands, clubs, bars, TV channels. As far as adopting a baby, I think you are nothing short of a huge asshole for deliberately choosing to deprive some child of a Mother. Its bad enough that happens by accident and otherwise.. but you are actually planning to do it. That makes me sick to my stomach, really.
Eras, youi are hi-jacking another post with your nonscence. What makes me sick is that people like eras, who are repressed, bigoted and mean spirited, are allowed to raise children or go any where near a child. (shudder) You are using crude stereotypes and that proves nothing. Studies have shown that gay men make excellent mothers. "You are nothing short of a huge asshole for deliberately" posting your base hate at this forum. Why don't you just go kick a dog or something?
Just thought i would let everyone know that in Western Australia a gay couple has adopted a child (1st to happen in Western Australia). Both positive and negative views upon it are being spread around but i wish them good luck and lots of love and happiness. I'm also just wondering how gay adoption is viewed upon around other parts of the world and your views upon it too, i personally can't wait until gay adoption and marriages aren't eyebrow raisers in the news or appear in the headlines.
They allow gay adoption in one state in the whole contry, Massachusetts. And they allow gay marrage in one state in the whole country, Massachusetts. Its all because of republicans and their religious agendas.
Gay adoption is legal in the following states: California, Washington, New Mexico, Wisconsin, Ohio, New Jersey, New York, Vermont, and Massachusetts.
i agree that one child from a third world country and a child from your own country can be just as needy, the only diffrence may be that in third world countrys, there are MORE children to be adopted, i have no idea if this is true or not though. i think it is preposterous that the government wants to ban gay adoption. do they realized that by doing that they are depriving a child of a home, loving family, and sometimes LIFE!...just playing both sides here, maybe i am against gay adoption. maybe i think that gay adoption deprives a child of a mother or father. STILL, if you were a child without a family or real home, would you rather live in a foster home or orphanage or on the STREETS, or be raised in a household, with people who love you...but with out a mother/father. (depending) are you not still gaining a home, love, and parents. ALL the children of the world cant be adopted and by banning gay adoption, you are just preventing more from being adopted and maybe even adding more people to an already crowded planet by forceing people to move towards seregacy instead!!!
Pixeewinged has it right, A hungry, lonely, little kid is a hungry, lonely, little kid. The arguement against adopting from developing nations (third world) doesn't make sense to me.Yeah, there is the arguement that we should maybe start with our own back yard, I guess it's a difference of what some people consider their back yard. As far as gay adoptions, it's more about the political agenda of the wingnut religious right than the quality of parenting given by a gay individual or couple. Anyone with a shred of human decency who ever walked through an orphanage would agree that the kids should have a home of their own and not be stuck in an institution.
