This isn't affecting me right now but I have often thought about this. What if a person were to love two people very much. If the person thought each one was the right one. Now also what if that person had been in a serious relationship with each person for quite some time. Do you think it is okay for someone to love and be in a deep, serious relationship with two people or do you think that a person should only see one person? Thanks in advance if you reply. (I'm a) Peace(ful guy.).
I don't think you can be in love with two people at once. I think eventually you'll find out one is just about lust or something similar, and u dont fall in love with someone without getting close to them and letting your mind start thinking of them more as a friend, and that would be decieving the person you were in love with in the first place and maybe in a relationship with too In the example that you were going out with someone and then fell in love with someone else, then i dont believe you were in love with the person you were originally with anyway, because of the above reasons, and you wouldnt think about it if you loved them. I guess it all depends on the situation, but basically i just dont believe that you can be IN LOVE with two people. Love Amanda
i think the french call that "menage a trois" or something... if the both people being loved can accept that, then they can sort of live together as a "threesome", usually in one apartment or something. ive kinda had a situation where i liek two guys and well.. cheated on one with the other... its good for yourself for a while but i can imagine that its really bad for the person being cheated on and the other guy... try to avoid loving two peeps if you can!
I am a guy that is on the wrong end of this right now. My ex and I were engaged to be married, we are in college and were gonna wait til we got out and get married. One day, she trold me she was a fraid of what was happening, and left me. Two days later I found out she was back with her ex. He is a total asshole, doesn't take care of her, and doesn't really have a life, meaning he isn't going anywhere good anytime soon. I talked to her when she was with him once, and she said that what we had wasn't real, that she had just gotten disillusioned, and that she wanted us to be friends, said she still loved me, etc. etc. Then, a couple weeks later, she called me and wanted the two of us to hang out alone. When we did, she told me that she still loved me and wanted to be with me, and she thought she made a mistake leaving. We talked the whole night about things, and she decided to think about all of it for a while then come to a decision on who she wanted to be with. Now, she doesn't take any time to ever see me, she claims she is busy all the time, and when she does plan to hang out with me, it always turns out that she can't "fit me in today". That really pisses me off. Apparently she is still thinkning about her decision, but at the same time it appears that to me at least that she doesn't value our friendship enought to continue it. Anyway, how does this apply to your question? I think my ex is not really in love with the guy she is with, she is just comfortable with the relationship she has with him, and just likes the security of it because she knows about it. There is no way that he actually makes her happy, all of her and my friends know it. Does she love me? I don't know. I am guessing she just wasn't actually looking for what she found in our relationship. I don't know though. I think you can love more than one person, but there are differences between love and being in a loving relationship. The essence, or fundamental feeling of love is very simple and is simply felt for someone or not. How the feeling affects your actions and other emotons is a different story though. I don't think it is ok for someone to have two serious relationships at once, because someone will end up getting hurt.
O dude , accept it- you got played - women are notorious for entering into new relationships while still being involved with someone else. Does she love you ???? HELL NO!!! She has disrespected you to a huge extent. Now stop disrespectin yourself. Best of luck mang.
It is quite possible indeed to love more than one person at the same time. Every individual is unique, special, and different from any other, and cannot be compared with any other. I have self-identified as polyamorous for quite some time now, and personally could never fit myself any longer into the conventional relationship stucture (monoamory/monogamy). Interestingly this society does not really practice true monogamy (one marriage), but serial monogamy...one marriage after another...after another...after another... I have come to realize that I require multiple intense, deep, unique/special, different relationships simultaneously. Each person with whom you interact draws out different characteristics and traits in your personality, and acts as a catalyst for your learning and growth in a totally different manner than anyone else. If there is interest, do a web search for "polyamory" and "polyfidelity". You'll find much very interesting reading. You will soon see that humans are very flexible creatures, and their relationships can be far more diverse than many people would imagine. Personally I lean more toward the Open Group Marriage construct... Also, by the way, the word "Polyamory" is actually a composite construct with both Latin and Greek roots: poly- (Greek): many -amory (Latin): love The basic translation is many loves.
I don't think it is possible to be in love with two people at the same time, if you think you are then I don't think you know what love really is. But that's just my opinion
I think that it is possible to love many people at once. Maybe for different things, or they all have the same qualities. Whatever. However, if I were to get into a relationship with anyone, or liked anyone to a point, I'd be monogomous. Therefore I'd never have to worry about this dilemma happening.
