I was really good friends with a guy since summertime. We just seemed to "get" each other, and we usually got along great. Over the past few months, it seemed as though we were testing the waters with each other, throwing out sexual innuendos and flirting in a playful manner. 80% of the time (if not more), the comments were brought on by him. Looking back, he just assumed that I thought he was straight, so it all meant nothing. We were talking on the phone one night, and he suddenly tells me that he is obsessed (so to speak) with one of our female friends. This threw me for a loop. It seemed as though he was waiting to let me down in a big way. Something felt completely off balance. After that, I could barely look him in the eye. So, last night, I basically called him and said that we couldn't be friends. He knew exactly what the feeling was and he seemed let down, to say the least. It's funny because I was building the conversation in my head all day to be angry and stand offish, but being the genuine guy he is, it went very well. I mean, as well as it can go... So anyway, I lost my best friend.
Did you really have to loss your best friend? Or do you mean that you lost the "true" love that you had hoped to find? You might can salvage the friendship if you don't mind being the friend that he thought you were. Someone who he could relax with, joke and cut up, and just be friends with. If you are feeling a loss of love, you should reconsider the emotion. Maybe retune the mixed signals for the future, so you don't get hurt again. But enjoy the friendship. Take it from a straight guy, I think he might lean more your way than he wants to admit, or he would not be so comfortable talking about it with you. Only you (and he) know how real that was. It could be that he might enjoy being more than a friend, but is not ready to deal with the choice of being gay, or Bi. Good luck with your friendship. I hope you reconsider, and I am guessing he does too. On the other hand, if he is no longer interested in the friendship. I am guessing he is way too uncomfortable with your feelings (or his own), or maybe you really did read too much between the lines. Use that as a guild for future friendships. good luck, James
Its hard to loss a bestfriend even when you want to end it. I know I reciently did that samething because she became more obessive. Even though I couldn't stand her, I felt sad. It was for teh best I realiezed! You'll be okay soon enough! Sorry again!
I saw ur post and had to read it. I to lost my best friend. A guy that I grew to love. I mean we had so much in common and it was so good to be around him. I tried to think of his only as my bestest friend but one day he got to talking about the person he wanted to marry later on in life and found myself thinkin as I was driving down the road that he had just said everything about me. That I had fallin love with him and that he was the kind of guy that I would want to have a relationship. The kind of friendship we had was exactly what I would want for someone who was my boyfriend. We did everythin together before he left. He left to Hawii recently to be with god. He felt if he stayed around his home town that he would only get into trouble so he left. I really hated to think he was leavin. I thought about it everyday after he told me like 3months before he left. I just had wished that he had never told me because every time I hung out with him it felt like it was one more day until he left. Ah the best of times. I actually dedicated part of my website to him www.dawnson64.piczo.com to show him that everyone missed him. He was such the friendly type everyone liked him so much. I never got jealous even though I knew he liked one of our mutual friends very very much. I only wished him the best. I never did tell him that I had fallen in love with him. check out my site if you want to see what i did .......i know it helped me after I lost my bestest friend.
id be down to say the least, me n my best mate are like sisters. LIke we even think the same shit often.. its pretty creepy.
