Okay, I posted this in another forum, but I just thought I'd put it here, too (makes more sense being here). There is a girl that I have known for years, and for all of those years I have been attracted to her. But now, I'm absolutely in love with her. The thing is, on the outside, day in and day out, she has been pretty mean to me. Kinda pokes fun at me, laughs at me, all that stuff. But we always seem to see each other alot, and when its just us, she seems to be nicer to me. We've actually had some great discussions before, and actually had fun. But most of the time she acts like I don't exist, and if anyone "better than me" comes along, I'm ignored. I'm 18 and never had a gf before (virgin, too), and I also happen to know that she has never had a bf before, either. So I can safely say that I have no idea how to be around women, I'm not very good at it. I can't really flirt or anything like that. I've also never had feelings for a girl before, but now, I can't stop thinking about her. Everyday, everynight, she's just all I seem to think about. Its not that I want to "get in her pants", I just want to be with her so much. Heck, I would do anything for her it seems, but I just don't know what to do, or what to think. She's mean to me most of the time, but there are times when she's very nice to me, which is why I seem to think that she may just have a thing for me but afraid to show it around other people. I think this because I'm the same way. When she's mean to me, I'm mean back. Its that whole, "Oh yea, well, fine!" "Fine!" "Fine!" Fine!" *storm off in opposite directions*, thing like you see on TV. So I'm just too embarassed to ask her what she thinks. What should I do? Do you think she likes me at all, or am I just nuts? I don't know what to think, but I'm in love with her too much to ignore this. I just feel that we're such a good match, and that I can't see muself with anyone else. It's also kind of funny, because everyone at school knows about us, and have always said "wouldn't it be funny if those two got together?". Yea, it's like, we're horrible with each other, but at the same time, it just feels so right that we be together. I don't know. Any ideas? Thanks!
bloody hell. if you dont retaliate when she abuses you then shell stop, i think. I'm not really good a at advice. but good luck
uhhh, not to be negative, but this sounds like the beginning of a very abusive relationship...but i can't judge cause i don't know you guys. i think you should just take the helm and be like, "you know what, chickie? i like you, a lot. and i'd like to take you out." see what she does?
Yeah, I've been in the same place you are. I think it's normal that if this is the first girl you've ever really been around, you'll feel pretty giddy around here, and probably won't be to stop thinking about her. I was the same way with the first girl I fell for. The whole playful fighting thing is good, but if you two can't just be around eachother, it probably won't work out. I think she likes you, but probably is'nt very serious, not like you are. Make it serious, go ask her out.
just ask her out... ignore whatever's holding you back and actually tell her how you feel. I was mean to this guy i was absolutely head over heals for... i wish I hadn't been, because I totally blew any chance I would've ever had. Everyone said he was too intimidated, so in my experience it backfired (the whole mean thing).
