Puberty... eeeek!

Yes! I would definately suggest hand-sewn pads, made by mama!
Since you know how great they are, I don't know if you soak yours or whatever, a lot fo gals do, I just throw mine in the wash, but maybe you could make her a soaking crock for her own? Even if she doesn't use it until she leaves the nest, it would be a sweet 'hope chest' kind of thing.
Also, what about a book that you cherish? Something outstanding, you know.

 

and the bottlesweater is a great idea! do you knit?

 

When I was a kid I walked in on my mother in the bathroom. When I asked her what was going on she told me that it was something that happens to all women and it would happen to me someday. I got really angry and told her that things like that only happen to fat old hags like her. That was the beginning and the end of our sex ed discussions. I did find a book in the back of the bookcase titled, "What to tell your children about sex." Unfortunately I don't think my mother ever read it. When my daughter started her cycle she was staying with friends for a few weeks. So she got her "Talk" from two gay men. Boy would I have liked to been a fly on the wall for that discussion. But she survived. Her daughter is quite educated on the subject at age 6. At least she knows about ultrasounds, and artificial insemination, and fertility shots. My daughter is way more open with her kids than I was. She wants her kids to be present at the birth of her new baby if the hospital will allow it.

Dakota, at 3, knows that babies grow inside your tummy and come out betwen your legs. He hasn't asked any more than that so far. But I plan on answering his questions as he asked them. I guess after 6 kids, I've learned a few things.

Kathi

 

My kids are pretty knowledgable as well. They know the basics of menstruation-well, not so much my three year old, but she knows that it happens and she says ewww! mommy, you're bleeding from your butt! I have no privacy...she has to examine everything. lol

 

ACK! Im going through this right now too (well my daughter is lol ) My daughter is 9 (soon to be 10) and just yesterday was complaining of cramps. She has other tell tale signs of impending menstration. What Im going to do is go out and get a a back pack and fill it with cloth pads, underwear, and other hygenic products (natural ones) and a small gift signifying womanhood. So we will have a little "red party" for her with my close girlfriend. I will also make her a red velvet cake So I do have big plans, Im just not ready! *sigh*

 

This must be a happy family as no secrets are keept lock.

 

I'm bringing this discussion back out of the "basement" for a moment... I could really really use a bit of help here, and I'm sure hoping that someone else has dealt with this.

My son is 11.25 now and definitely "interested" in girls, his own body, and in "accidentally" catching me half-dressed in the morning. (I've taken to LOCKING my bedroom door when I'm getting dressed, but still!) DH has been taking him out weekly for about a year now, and he says they've had a couple discussions about girls but nothing really serious, and not nearly enough to count as "sex ed." We had been hoping a year ago that after some prompting he'd start to ask questions & we could answer them as they came up, but he doesn't ask ANYTHING!

It's high time for him to know what's going on, but we're a little stumped. It looks lke we're going to have to just "lay it all on him" without him asking ANY questions. I dunno if this is just part of who he is, or what... but it's got me completely confused because to be honest I'm not sure what to start with or how much to tell him if he's not going to ask anything, ya know?

I don't have any brothers, and my parents pulled me out of sex-ed while I was in school. My husband says he doesn't remember a thing that was taught to him in sex-ed, and doubts we want to give him the "locker room version" that he DOES remember. I've gone through his health curriculum for the next 2 years, and they don't approach this at all. So I'm absolutely at a loss here. Does anyone here know of any books, websites, ideas, or ANYTHING that might help here with a lil guy that won't ask any questions?
love,
mom

 

Hmmm, I never had sex-ed in school, and my parents never really talked to me about sex except to tell me to wait until I was in love/married. My mom tried to talk to me in a little more detail around the time I was 14, and I would literally cover my ears and start singing really loud. I didn't ask questions, and I honestly didn't want to know! I think a lot of it was due to embarassment.

 

Hmm... this ight be a little kid-ish for him, but especially if he hasn't gotten some of the basics yet you might check out the book "What's Happening to Me?". My mom always keeps it in the library of her church. (She's a UU Minister of Religious Ed.) I remember reading it and getting a lot from it when I was around 10.