dirty thoughts but too embarassed to say them

hello...my b/f and i are pretty much always wanting to try new things in our sex life if will...but uh, last night for the first time ever he said he would be my sex slave and he wanted me to 'command' him what to 'do' to me, not 'tell'.

later that night, i did...but i didnt go all out. i jus told him to suck my tits and pressed his hands on to them, and and then told him to fuck me. he wanted ME to take charge, but i dont really know how, even though i want to. inside, i have all these dirty commands in my head, but im just embarassed to let go. he says i shouldnt be embarassed. me and him and very close and talk about everything but uh, i dont know, i just feel like bad like commanding him what to do..even tho it is like, a mini fantasy of mine. i mean, usually when i DO go ALL out on other things, he and i both like it. but sometimes, i just cant bring myself to let myself go.

any advice? Thankyouverymuch!

 

You have to *really* think of him as your slave, not as your boyfriend who I'm guessing is usually in charge... I'm mean, do make him do anything he doesn't want to do, but if you've got those dirty thoughts, just SAY them... don't feel embarassed.

Let me as you a question.

Has he seen your ****?

Has he stuck his cock in your ****?

If the answer to these 2 questions is YES, then you've already gotten past the most embarassing part Now go and let him be your slave

 

Eloquently put WP.

But seriously he's right you have to just lose yourself in the moment. He loves you, he wants you, you're sexy to him. And nothing is gonna put him off you, especially this. Just be confident.

 

Im sure you could find some willing volunteers to assist you in here, sorry really tired and been hearing truckers all day. Kinda bends the mind!

 

Yep. Don't be afraid to ask for what you like. In the heat of the moment issuing a command almost ALWAYS makes it happen. It's such a turn on and you're turned on at the moment anyway. And don't be afraid to direct him to teach him what you like. Eventually he'll know what you like well enough it will be like you were masturbating but without the work!

 

hey thank you! u guys are right! must unlesh the sexy vixen!

and wickedpenetration - yep 2 both of those questions.

 

Hehe ...

You could practice on me if you like. :H

 

my advice is to drink something. not too much, just enough to clear your mind, and to free your tongue.
yesterday I was with 3 girls in the pub, one of them drank about 10 shots... she lost control and it was fun watching her dance wildly with the barman then with that other girl.

 

Welcome to the world of sexual domination. He wants you to be a domme. it doesn't mean you have to start buying leather, whips, and chains. Like WickedPenetration and Anaconda said, give in to the urges of your inner slut. Sexual domination is a psychological thing, and he wants you to stimulate his mind, not just his eyes or dick. The first thing you are going to have to do is admit to yourself that you might enjoy some of those things you're too embarrassed to think about right now. Don't automatically dismiss those thoughts as too dirty or too kinky too whatever. If you need to, create an alter ego that has absolutely no inhibitions, no shame, and no problems Getting What She Wants.

 

Hehe yeah if you got the thoughts in your head and he asked you to do it in the first place just do it.

I'm not too good at doing the dominating thing I'm much better at the submission but my boyfriend sometimes asks me to tie him up or blind fold him and asks for me to be in charge. It's a little akward because it's almost always the other way around (I'm such an innocent shy thing no matter after how many times). But then its fun to tease him because I'm too light and feathery with my touches and it just makes him so frustraited and insane. After I untie him he pretty much attacks me. Wee! Fun stuff.