i want a guy who is not lazy..............

why is it everything just feels so casual, boring, when i flirt w someone, there is nonbody that i feel, wow, man, i really wanna get to know him better.....
And w one night stand, i just meet guys that are lazy, too fast, just too fucking boring.....

 

hmmm.... i don't know what to tell you. i kind of have the same problem, maybe you might need to relax and see what comes to you, and try going out with guys that are different than what you would normally talk to. and with the one night stand thing, i would have to say that a lot of guys pretty much suck at sex, myself included (but only from lack of experience) and some don't even give a crap about getting you off. try and find a nice, down to earth guy, but its easier said than done. good luck

 

because you have to take the time to get to know them! And think about it...how much interest is a guy going to feel he needs to take if you sleep with him the first night you talk...how much is he doesn't have anything invested in you. For most men sex isn't an investment, while getting to know a girl is. They're the oppositte of most women, we look as sex as an investment in someone but unless a guy really cares about you he's not going to see it that way. You really can't expect somone you hardly know on the inside to care about you and honestly how much do you really care about them..or are you just looking for that space to fill? I understand you I can't stand lazy men at all but to attract ones that are decent, call you everyday, respect what you want you have to really get to know somone. You need to be friends first. I was talking about this tonight and the only really good relationships I had are where I was strictly platonic with the guy for quite a long time.
So slow down and take it easy. DOn't go looking for it. Be the kind of woman who attracts the kind of men you are looking for.

 

that really says it all. if you go out looking for one night stands then thats all your going to get. where are you meeting these one-nighters anyway? go to places that people like you flock to, maybe a library or concerts (i dont know you personally but you get the idea...)

the best thing is to not LOOK for a guy. a watched pot never boils. pursue YOUR life, and things will fall into place.

 

very impressive...

 

Us hippies tend to be that way. We live for the moment, are lazy and just too brain dead to carry on an eventful and stimulating conversation. Sorry.

 

Guys are out there but women tend to look for certian things and rule out alot, or they say they are looking for one thing but go for something else. Alot claim they want dependable, good job, nice ect and then date some dude that has no job, a car that mommy and daddy bought em, is out to get laid and some even are violent. Crazy shit too, women tend to want to stay witht he creeps that are abusive, and cheat. I knew this guy that had like 5 gf's and they knew about each other and they would buy him all sorts of shit and he would knock the hell out of em. I departed hime from my knowledge list of life. Point is why did they compete for his affection when he was a looser from the start?