I'm so angry right now. I don't know if any of you were reading the "masturbation" threads but the past couple days I was researching for my bf who was having some problems. Apparently, he has absolutely no problem with his sexuality when it comes to cheating! He had told me he went to Miami (about an hour and a half south of me) to do some business and ended up staying over a friend's. In reality, he wasn't more than accouple miles from home, in a hotel room with an old friend who had flown in from Denmark, screwing her. Then he has the nerve to call me after "drive home from Miami" and telling me how tired he is. Comes over the next day (this morning) takes me to the pool, sleeps with me, eats the dinner that I cooked for him, and finally confesses that he cheated on me. Well, he did tell me two weeks ago he needs to "reexamine" how he feels about our relationship and needed some time to think. But that was all bull. He really had just found out that she was coming to visit. He wanted to be free to screw around when she came. And after their dirty deed was done, told me he wanted to be with me but had to clear the air first. Now he says he's ready for forever, just like he said accouple months ago after having an "epiphany" and realizing how much he loved me. How he realized he needed to treat me so well now and hold on to me. I feel so screwed over. I feel tricked and deceived. THREE YEARS WE WERE TOGETHER. How can someone do that? Please help, I feel like I'm losing my mind!!!!!!!!! I've loved this person so much for all this time.
break it off. 3 years...and he cheats on you damn that's fucked. Honestly though just to save you pain in the future if any guy says he needs time to think I walk away...if he needs time he's wasting mine. I know it's so hard but you'll feel so much better a few weeks after you leave. I've never been cheated on but I've been devalued and afraid to be alone and ya know the aloneness never lasts long for me I click with people pretty well right after a break-up because it's almost a sense of rejuvination if it was a bad one and even if the aloness did last I long time knowing that you'd be happy alone is what you need to know and figure out.
Anyone who does that doesn't deserve the love you were obviously providing. Drop him and don't let him come back. If he did it once, he'll do it again.
well that sounds pretty crap 2 me. dunno what u must b feeling rite now, i know (if i was a gal) id b feeling more than angry at the bastard for doing it, but at the same time not wana let go of a 3 year relationship. trouble is with a guy that says that, is he doesnt mean it. he needs time to think so cools away from u for a bit to fuck his denmark bird, then comes back ready for love confessing his sins? u cant ever trust a guy like that again, and it will b bloody hard breaking it off after 3 years, but if i did that id never expect 2 be taken back. y should he? the only other option if u did wana keep him, is go 2 a club, fuck some random fella and tell him the next morning. then you've at least settled the score and he can see how it feels to be cheated on. but keep ur eye on him.
Don't laugh - it's not good being cheated on. Or even thinking that maybe you WERE being cheated on. As far as I'm concerned, bugger relationships and all that shit. I'm staying a gypsy.
He made a concious decision to lie to you. He even made up a story. He didn't make any "mistake." Well he did, but he knew what he was doing. Lose him.
